30-01-2020
How Conflict Norms Produce Faster Meetings and Better Decisions
Conflict already exists every time team members gather for a meeting. The goal is to get all the conflicting opinions and perspectives out on the table and to make a decision that everyone is comfortable committing to. Conflict norms are an incredibly effective way of making sure that happens, and in this episode Jim and Margot will share 5 specific conflict norms to consider implementing on your team. Example 1: Real-Time Permission § A team member interrupts discussion in real time to point out positive behaviour and reinforce it for the whole group.§ Helps reinforce what is and is not helpful/acceptable as difficult topics are discussed. Example 2: Removing the Back Door§ Once a decision has been made, it’s not acceptable to approach the leader later and present more information in order for the decision to be re-evaluated.§ Helps reinforce that people need to come to meetings prepared and speak up while the discussion is happening so time can be used effectively. Example 3: Silence Equals Disagreement§ Assume that if people haven’t voiced their opinion, it’s not because they just agree with what’s being said—assume that they disagree and ask them to weigh in.§ Helps reinforce that everyone needs to weigh in and keeps decisions from being made without everyone’s commitment. Example 4: Roman Council§ Call out the potential decision to be made, and everyone holds out their hands with a thumbs up (yes, go ahead), a thumbs down (no, I’m not committed to this), or thumbs sideways (I need to understand more before I can decide).§ Gives opportunity for a quick visual gauge on the level of commitment to a direction, and can save meeting time. Example 5: Fist-to-Five§ Call out the potential decision to be made, everyone holds out their fists, and the leader counts, “One, two, SHOW”. Each team member displays: all five fingers (totally committed, go ahead), four fingers (okay to go ahead), three fingers (not in DISagreement, go ahead), and two fingers or one finger or a fist means there is not agreement and discussion needs to continue.§ Gives more nuance than a simple “yes, no, maybe”; if everyone has 3s, 4s, or 5s, you might save meeting time because actually everyone is prepared to move forward on the decision. Other conflict norms to consider:§ What level/kind of emotional display is helpful and accepted in our discussions?§ How should strong language be (or not be) used in our discussions?§ When should a conversation include the whole team versus happen between only certain team members?§ What body language/behaviour is NOT acceptable in our meetings during heated discussion?- - - Let us know if you have follow-up questions about this episode or other leadership team and organizational health topics! We will plan them into future episodes. Listen at:Apple Podcasts - apple.co/2vwAY59Spotify - spoti.fi/36xgtlpStitcher - bit.ly/2O6DCVoConnect with the hosts:Jim Brown’s LinkedIn - http://bit.ly/2Fqs9LU Margot Thompson’s LinkedIn - http://bit.ly/2FvFJh2 As always, you can listen to more and read more at www.orghealth.coach, subscribe for email updates, or follow us on social media.