Pregnancy and birth is an exciting time...
...but sometimes we avoid telling the stories of those who did not have a positive birth experience.
Sometimes these people do not feel like there is a safe place to tell their stories.
It’s time to remedy that.
If you were broken by your birth experience: I am sorry.
Your story deserves to be told.
You can come to a place of peace and understanding of the day you gave birth.
That is what I'm here to do. Now. I'm here to help you learn that it is not your fault.
Are you ready to start healing the trauma of your birth story?
Come and join me on this week's episode of While Doing Laundry.
Pregnancy is an exciting time
Sometimes we avoid telling the stories of those who did not have a positive pregnancy/birth experience
Sometimes these people do not feel like there is a safe place to tell their stories
It’s time to remedy that
This is why and how I developed my birth processing approach
Caveat: I am not a counselor or therapist, so my approach may not be for everyone
I want to address the fact that sometimes birth trauma is completely dismissed by other mental health professions
Birth processing is here to show you that you did not fail - you were failed.
Birth processing replaces the rhetoric of “You have a healthy baby, you SHOULD be happy about that”
Mothers are not given the opportunity to ask the question, “What about me?”
No one wants to talk about this - family members often do not know how to help and care providers quickly dismiss concerns about birthing interventions and trauma
Mothers are made to feel out of line for questioning anything
And so mothers bury their pain and trauma - but their bodies do not forget - and the trauma continues to have power over their minds, emotions and tasks of daily living
If you were broken by your birth experience - I am sorry
Your story deserves to be told
You can come to a place of peace and understanding of the day you gave birth
I remember being completely oblivious to how damaging my birth experience was. For years. I was treated for serious mental health conditions. I was advised that if I lost weight, maybe I would feel better about things.
I stayed angry and my attachment and bonding experience as a new parent was severely stunted by the trauma that happened to me and the inability to articulate or identify it.
It wasn't until I met some very, very, very passionate people who challenged me on every aspect of my birth that I thought I knew that I began to see that it wasn't my fault.
That is what I'm here to do. Now. I'm here to help you learn that it is not your fault.
I take you through a very, very structured approach
We start with an objective bird's eye view of what happened
We then move from uncovering and unburying your feelings and emotions regarding that day to understanding what actually happened and what should have actually happened
Finally, we redefine that story - that is when the whole entire experience comes together
That story is yours to keep forever
It may be a bulleted list, a beautiful narrative, or just a small phrase that you repeat to yourself whenever you think of that day
Birth processing is here to free you from the guilt, the shame, the hurt, that happened the day you gave birth
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