StephUp Podcast

Can labels serve a purpose? YESCan labels also create limitations and judgment?YESLet's dive in! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"If nothing changes, nothing changes" This is a true statement but we must also recognize that it can sometimes be used to pressure us into making decisions that do not align with who we are. Often, people suggest we push through discomfort by changing our mindset, but it’s crucial to discern whether this discomfort comes from fear or if its our intuition signaling that something isn’t right.Change is naturally uncomfortable, and our bodies resist it. However, when we pursue what truly aligns with us, it may feel scary but also undeniably right. The key is to trust our inner knowing and not force ourselves into paths that don’t feel aligned. Meaningful change comes from a place of authenticity, self-awareness, and courage. It’s about embracing change that feels both challenging and deeply right, rather than conforming to others' expectations.We can learn to trust our journey, embrace growth, and make decisions that resonate with our true selves. This may take time and it takes knowing yourself but do not give up hope. It is possible. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Last week, I was listening to a live talk on the Noom Vibe app by podcaster and Recovery Mentor, Martin Jon Garcia. He does the "Tao of the Day" and you can pick a number between 1 and 81 to get the Tao of the Day. I went up as a guest on his live and it was such an encouraging talk that challenged me. I picked the number 7 and this is what MartinJon read to me:#7 – The Wisdom of Not Having PreferenceTao is infinite.It doesn’t grow old or tired.Because it has no preference for itself. It can always persist.The master puts her self lastAnd always finds herself first. By being detached from preference.She can give herself to what isAnd find fulfillment there. I broke down crying because this spoke to me as I just want to “arrive” already. Some days I want to forgo the journey and be in a place of complete healing and be like those people who are so eloquent and who are in a much better place. But like they say “the joy is in the journey” and detach yourself from this idea of “arriving”. You can check out MartinJon at his website: www.martinjon.comDownload the Noom Vibe app:Apple:  https://apps.apple.com/us/app/noom-vibe-healthy-habits/id1576484544Google: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.socialaudio.wisdom&hl=en_US&pli=1 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This little light of mine...I'm going to let it shine. In spite of what others think or say and especially in spite of ourselves. Sometimes we feel like we are being that best version of ourselves and other times we feel like the little kid who isn't allowed to sit at the adult table. Or maybe that's just me.I was given advice to not be selfish with what I have to offer. To shine my light, even when it seems I don't have any or when I have just a tiny little flame. You never know when what you have to offer could help someone else. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a live I did on the Noom Vibe app (check it out in your Apple Store or Google Play!)There are no limits to how far we can go and who we can be and what we want to be. There is really no ceiling above us that can stop how high we go even though there is a belief in society that you can only do so much. Once we overcome our limiting beliefs and we focus on finding our “why” instead of worrying about the “how”, things will start moving forward. And yet, it is important to know your limits. This might seem contradictory but there are limits to who we are because we are not meant to do everything. We are each uniquely who we are and all of us are here to do different things. We find what works for us by trying and failing. And understanding how to listen to our intuition and figure out what fully aligns with us and what doesn’t. You can listen anywhere you listen to podcasts. 🎙 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You know when you are going through a hard time and want to hide away? This episode is about that. And about the fear of putting ourselves out there and comparing to others who seem to have it all figured out. I can only be me. My experiences and perspectives and skills make me, me. The comparisons on social media can freeze us. But it doesn’t mean anything. We can look to our own path and believe in ourselves and know that we have something to give. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My Oma passed away today. She was 97. I didn’t get to know her that well due to distance and language barriers but when I think of strong women, she comes to mind. She went through a lot in her life and took on many responsibilities, that of marrying a man who already had 4 kids. A strong woman is someone who knows herself and is not afraid of it. She knows her boundaries and doesn’t just fall in line because that’s what you are “supposed to do”. If you don’t believe that you can be strong, know that you are. You have the power within you. It just has to be cultivated so you can bloom.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Procrastination has generally been labeled as a “bad” thing. But sometimes there are layers to it. And does it even help to label things as good or bad? Does it help to assign negative emotions to things? Sure, we don’t know what tomorrow will bring and yes, it is important to do things now instead of constantly putting it off. But understanding the reasons behind can be very helpful. It’s helpful for us to know so we can figure it out and so we can encourage instead of shame others as well. We want to be understood and we long for people to meet us where we are. Some of the reasons for procrastination can be overwhelm, fear of failure, fear of success, perfectionism and sometimes we need to have discernment on whether we even should take action.  It doesn’t mean that we allow these reasons to keep us stuck and not moving forward. But as always, there are layers to being human and the complexities of everything we experience. There are layers to procrastination. It’s important to understand where these emotions and blockages come from. But we don’t need to add shame to these thingsEncourage. Empower. Love.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I am thankful for the painful things. It taught me so much about myself and who I am and who I want to be. It taught me about understanding others who are in pain too. When you put others down, it makes you feel superior so you can feel better about yourself. Except it doesn't and that’s where you can see what’s truly within you. This all shaped me into the person I am today. It’s easier to empathise with others when you understand pain. It’s amazing how sending love to others can change you. We are sending out what we have within us. When I allowed my ego and anger to take over, I know I made things worse. Thank you for the experiences and the lessons. Thank you for the pain. The hardest person in your life is your greatest teacher. Loving that one person who seems to be the hardest to love changes you. And it changes them too. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I said that?! I did that?! I believed that?! I thought that?!”We are all in different places at various times in our lives. If we look back at 5, 20, 40 years ago, we can see how many changes have taken place within us. It can be hard to look back and acknowledge that was you and that was embarrassing what you said or did, but it was also a previous version of you.That was you and that was where you were at in that moment during that time.  We are all human and we all know what that feels like. Give yourself grace and recognize how far you’ve come.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Thank you, body!” Have you ever said that to your body? Do you ever look at it and just thank it and love it? We put our bodies through so much. Add to that all the shame, addiction, self-harm, hatred, etc. Our trauma is trapped within our bodies. Let us free our bodies from the pain. I free myself. I love myself. I thank myself.Accept and feel it. Feel the gratitude. Feel the beauty. Your body knows when you start to love yourself. Everything is connected. Let’s start speaking kindly to our bodies and help to heal ourselves from so much pain.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I've been asked before if I really needed to know what's within me and what's in my past. Sometimes, it's really not helpful to know and for some people maybe it isn't. For me, it was important to know myself; to know why I did what I did and how I tick. I had to go to the past to understand myself in order to adjust and move forward in my future. Only you can really answer if you really need to know. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a live talk I did on the Wisdom App where I opened up a discussion about beauty standards. I want to thank the amazing guests that came on to share their thoughts and experiences on what it means to be beautiful and how the beauty standards that we were told were important have affected us over the years. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What causes you to freeze up and second guess yourself on everything? We judge ourselves all the time and it can become such a barrier in our lives. It is such a human thing and we all do it. Those who can overcome are the ones who can let go and find empowerment in spite of it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There is only one you. We've all heard this before about how we are all unique but do we really believe it? And how do we find out who we really are?It comes down to know yourself to grow yourself to heal yourself. And repeat. It's a circular movement that will continue to propel you forward as you uncover new layers within yourself. Make mistakes and learn from them. Listen to your inner voice and make more mistakes. Pivot and try something different so you can find out who you are and be uniquely you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm back for season 3 of the StephUp Podcast! The past 2 seasons I've had wonderful conversations with guests but I'm switching it up for season 3. It will be just me getting on the MIC as I seek soulful evolution amidst the noise. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Thank you for listening to the StephUp Podcast over the past 2 seasons. I’ve learned a lot over the last few years and so much of that is due to the podcast. I spoke to so many amazing guests who taught me a lot. Speaking out has helped me to be more articulate and figure out who I am as a person. While I've enjoyed doing this podcast and all I've learned, it is time for me to move on. This may be for good or it might just be for a long season.Remember, your feelings and experience are valid. If people try to tell you otherwise, they do not know what it is like to be you or to have been you. Find your safe people, those who let you work things out and figure things out on your own and don't feel the need to step over your boundaries. Safe people are those who don't just swoop in to tell you what they think you should do. Be passionate. Be your unique self. Be you.Thank you.Follow StephUp Podcast on Instagram,  Twitter, and her website at  www.stephanieannwebb.com.Buy Steph's book, “What Should Dragon Do?”Support the podcast: Buy Me A Coffee Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Author, life coach & motivational speaker, Randy Spelling returns to close out season 2 of the StephUp Podcast as we talk about fame and personal development.Being rich and famous seems glamorous to the rest of us but it isn’t all it seems. Randy talks about some of the good and bad aspects and what it felt like growing up in this environment. His father, Hollywood producer, Aaron Spelling, created some of our favourite shows: “Beverly Hills 90210”, “Melrose Place, “7th Heaven” and more. Randy left Hollywood and is now a life coach and motivational speaker who loves to help people find their own way and success in life.Randy and I discuss the fear of putting yourself out there, why conversations are important (especially when we disagree), why being rich and famous doesn’t make you happy and why personal development is important.“The human experience can be hard and brutal sometimes, so let’s make it more beautiful and more fun while embracing the hard aspects of life, and love each other as best we can.”Check out Randy on the socials on Instagram, Twitter,  Facebook, YouTube and his websiteBuy Randy’s book, “Unlimiting You” on Amazon.comFollow StephUp Podcast on Instagram,  Twitter, and her website at  www.stephanieannwebb.com.Buy Steph's book, “What Should Dragon Do?”Support the podcast: Buy Me A Coffee  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, join me in a lovely and fun chat with my friend, Vanessa Zellmer, as we talk about growing up as fundie evangelicals. Vanessa shares her experiences of what it was like growing up in a strict Pentecostal sect.We discuss what it was like being raised female in the church. The patriarchal ideas that women are less than men, as well as being told that women are emotional while men are the rational, superior thinkers who are called to be the head of the household.One of the theological traditions we were both raised with was called Calvinism and one of its tenets is something called “Total Depravity”, a belief that we are inherently sinful and the only good in us comes from God. This kind of teaching led us to have feelings of worthlessness.Vanessa and I also touched on the black and white thinking that many people are raised with. This leads to dehumanizing and “othering” people which leads to more fear and divisiveness, especially between people of faith and the secular world. Follow StephUp Podcast on Instagram,  Twitter, and my website at  www.stephanieannwebb.com.Buy Steph's book, “What Should Dragon Do?”Support the podcast: Buy Me A Coffee  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today’s episode of the StephUp Podcast, join me in a lovely and fun chat with social worker, behavioural life consultant and coach, Megan McLaren. Megan shares what a day in her life is like working with patients with mental health, chronic disease management as a social worker and then supporting and encouraging people as a life coach. Since there are so many tools and information out there, it can be good but also overwhelming and that is where Megan’s education and social work also helps her life coach clients.I asked Megan about how some personal development teaching can be stressful and damaging. She says some people glamourize the “hustle culture” but true change takes time. It’s important to take out “only” in our wording; celebrate all your accomplishments, no matter how small.Megan advises that it can be difficult to diagnose narcissism. There are different traits (grandiose feelings and infatuation of themselves, think they know everything, having unrealistic expectations, emotionally neglectful, not empathetic, etc). If a person has just a few of the narcissistic traits, they probably aren’t. Narcissists are very manipulative. They can be covert (subtle, passive aggressive) or overt which is more obvious. They are attracted to people with good traits and seek them out. Megan also advises that narcissism is a learnt behaviour. Many times, it comes from trauma. There is no cure for narcissism, but psychotherapy can be a help for narcissists.“A narcissist can sniff out good traits in a person and so they are going to play on all those wonderful traits and exploit those. They are a master in that exploitation.”Megan shares some techniques to stand your ground with a narcissist: 1)    Set boundaries and stand firm with them2)    Don’t engage in arguments3)    Distance yourself4)    Find a good community Check out Megan’s website and follow her on Instagram and FacebookThank you to the amazing German, aka Your Podcast Editor for editing my audio conversation with Megan. Follow him at his website, Instagram and Twitter.Follow StephUp Podcast on Instagram,  Twitter, and her website at  www.stephanieannwebb.com.Buy Steph's book, “What Should Dragon Do?”Support the podcast: Buy Me A Coffee  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.