Distracted by Life - Making change within Yourself and your Relationships

Amal Candido

Hello, and thank you for joining us today at Distracted by Life. Our Podcast is all about making change within yourself and your relationships. We share conversations, stories and explore ideas coming from our lifelong journey of the high points but especially the low points where we learned to face our fears or cope with pain, loss, and failure. We do this on a discovery quest to establish patterns around our past and understand whether we are tripping up from our past or being held hostage by it. We work on identifying ways to move forward, aligning our core values, and unlocking the keys to self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-compassion, and letting go of what is not serving you positively in life. A better you is always there, ready to explore a new world! -----WEBSITES: Amalcandido.com MyEABlog.com -----BOOKS: https://amalcandido.com/books/

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Compassion: Creating Space for Self-Healing

Compassion: Creating Space for Self-Healing

When we are going through troubled times, gripped by our own insecurities and fears, and carrying the pain of our wounds everywhere, we are often told to be courageous.We are told, either by the world or even by our own selves, that we need to be strong, pull it together, and fight it out.How many times do we hear that we need to be compassionate toward our wounded, hurt, and broken parts? In today’s episode, our focus will be on compassion for ourselves and healing. Amal will share some of her own personal learning and how compassion changed her view of herself and her own life experiences. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

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Compassion: Creating Space for Self-Healing

Compassion: Creating Space for Self-Healing

When we are going through troubled times, gripped by our own insecurities and fears, and carrying the pain of our wounds everywhere, we are often told to be courageous.We are told, either by the world or even by our own selves, that we need to be strong, pull it together, and fight it out.How many times do we hear that we need to be compassionate toward our wounded, hurt, and broken parts? In today’s episode, our focus will be on compassion for ourselves and healing. Amal will share some of her own personal learning and how compassion changed her view of herself and her own life experiences. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Breaking the Cycle of Powerlessness

Breaking the Cycle of Powerlessness

Let me ask you this: How often do you feel powerless on any given day—overwhelmed by obligations and unrealistic expectations, stuck in situations that feel impossible to change, or victimized by people or emotions you can’t control? Yet, throughout all that, we are born with unlimited potential to grow, adapt, and succeed, in effect, making us innately powerful. Just the fact that we learned how to crawl and then walk and that we developed skills to relate to the world around us proves that we are innately powerful. So, when and how, for some of us, do we or did we end up losing our power? In today’s episode, we will explore further with Amal. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Gail Gazelle, MD. & Physician coach tells us - “When you say “yes” to something, you are always saying “no” to something else.”In times of change and uncertainty, it is critical that we practice advocating for our own needs, setting firm personal boundaries, and learning to say “no” when we need to. In today’s podcast, Amal will share her own personal learnings and growth in this area. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Be There for the Good Stuff

Be There for the Good Stuff

A powerful benefit of close relationships is having others there for us when things are going right in our lives. Research shows that the act of communicating positive events that happen to us with others is associated with increased positive affect and well-being. This is above and beyond the impact of the positive event itself. Additionally, when our news is met with a particular response style, the benefits are enhanced even further. So, what are those response styles? Today Amal will explore each with us. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Why Relationships Lose Their Spark

Why Relationships Lose Their Spark

Relationships are anything but simple. They are complex and demanding and can be rewarding only if we are willing to make the effort. And every relationship requires different kinds of effort and different intensities on different occasions.Is there a straightforward answer to what makes a relationship work or even last? No.Every relationship comes with its uniqueness simply because it is created, maintained, and lived by two (or more) unique individuals. I have a feeling this is going to be a very interesting topic to discuss with my wife, Amal. I know she has a lot to say about the topic. So, let’s jump right in. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Embrace High-Quality Connections

Embrace High-Quality Connections

In today’s podcast episode, Amal will discuss what it means for us to embrace and actively learn to build high-quality connections. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

3Ps- The Secret to Emotional Resilience

3Ps- The Secret to Emotional Resilience

Want to bounce back better? Build your emotional resilience. “Resiliency is like a scale, with negative and positive experiences acting as counterweights.” In the face of widespread adversity, it’s normal to feel like you’ve lost control. Because you have. Your loss of control, however, has not taken away your ability to respond. And one of the ways you can do so is by building resilience.Amal is here today to explore why emotional resilience is important. She will also help us to understand, What are the 3Ps of emotional resilience? Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Turn on the radio, open your emails, or flip on the tv and you’re sure to get barraged with bad news. There is a temptation to shut down— it’s a lot to take in, after all. Life can get us down, but there are ways to maintain hope in your life.For those who believe we can still make a difference on our planet, I encourage you to hang in there as we share three ways in keeping hope alive. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Tips To Manifest Self-Confidence

Tips To Manifest Self-Confidence

Did you know the key to success isn’t talent? It’s confidence! Confidence leads to success because confident people are more willing to take risks, recover from setbacks, and view problems creatively.Not only can self-confidence give you a leg up in the professional world, but it can also impact your relationships. After all, self-confident people tend to be more charismatic, empathetic, and self-assured, making them great partners and friends.Maybe you’ve experienced a loss or a failure that’s shaken your confidence. Or maybe you’ve struggled with self-confidence your whole life. Whatever the reason, try these five tips to manifest confident energy if you're looking to boost your self-confidence. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

3 Ways to Manage Anxiety with Mindfulness

3 Ways to Manage Anxiety with Mindfulness

Some clinical psychologists believe Integrating mindfulness into cognitive behavioral therapy, a.k.a. CBT, can provide profound relief from anxiety. Based on research - anxiety often develops when two things are true:1) There’s an outcome we care about, for example, such as being present for our kids, and2) The outcome is uncertain, which is almost always the case for things that matter to us. Here with us today is Amal, who will share what she has found in her own research journey with anxiety. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

5 Ways to Declutter Your Social Life

5 Ways to Declutter Your Social Life

Today we’ll discuss how to declutter our social life in five simple ways. I know personally; I’ve done it myself in the past. I do believe it’s good to declutter or clean up your social media and keep your circle tight with people who are worth keeping. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Toxic Anger vs. Healing Anger

Toxic Anger vs. Healing Anger

When we avoid feeling what we feel, it tends to dampen all emotions. Anger is a hot emotion. It’s intense, making us want to act, lash out, and react with violence. It can feel dangerous to feel our anger, so many of us don’t. We avoid it at all costs, swallowing our emotions, holding back, and pasting a peaceful face over the bubbling rage on the inside. In today’s episode, we will unpack toxic anger vs. healing anger. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

What is Gray Rocking? | You've probably done this already and didn't know it.

What is Gray Rocking? | You've probably done this already and didn't know it.

In today’s episode, we discover what the term Gray Rock means. We ask; How does Gray Rock work, and when is Gray Rock not advisable to use? Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Got Difficult People in Your Life? Think of Them as a Teacher

Got Difficult People in Your Life? Think of Them as a Teacher

Just as our earth is a mix of terrains—from grassy hills and rivers to volcanoes and deserts—so is it filled with many types of individuals. While some people are as serene as an ancient forest, others are about as comfortable as a bed of rocks. What happens when one of these people plays a major role in our lives? Perhaps it’s a boss, parent, friend, or sibling. How does one stay kind and forgiving and yet keep personal boundaries and a sense of dignity?Here with us is Amal to share some of her own perspectives on having difficult people as teachers in your life. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Radical Self-care Series - The Skill of Saying No - 5 of 5

Radical Self-care Series - The Skill of Saying No - 5 of 5

Welcome to our series on Radical Self-care. You are listening to the FIFTH of 5 topics. This series is meant to help you refocus on your self-care at work.Today we will talk about The Skill of Saying No. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Radical Self-care Series - Difference between Wanting and Willing - 4 of 5

Radical Self-care Series - Difference between Wanting and Willing - 4 of 5

Welcome to our series on Radical Self-care. You are listening to the Fourth of 5 topics. This series is meant to help you to refocus on your own self-care at work. Today we will talk about the Difference between Wanting and Willing. Joining us is Amal, who will help us explore each of the topics in this series.Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Radical Self-care Series - Workplace Burnout - 3 of 5

Radical Self-care Series - Workplace Burnout - 3 of 5

Welcome to our series on Radical Self-care. You are listening to the first of 5 topics. This series is meant to help you refocus on your self-care at work. Today we will talk about Workplace Burnout. Joining us is Amal, who will help us explore each of the topics in this series.Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Radical Self-care Series - Feel Happier at Work without Getting a New Job or Career - 2 of 5

Radical Self-care Series - Feel Happier at Work without Getting a New Job or Career - 2 of 5

Welcome to our series on Radical Self-care. You are listening to the second of 5 topics. This series is meant to help you to refocus on your own self-care at work.Today we will talk about Feeling Happier at Work without Getting a New Job or Career. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Radical Self-care Series- Surviving Meetings - 1 of 5

Radical Self-care Series- Surviving Meetings - 1 of 5

Welcome to our series on Radical Self-care. You are listening to the first of 5 topics. This series is meant to help you refocus on your self-care at work.Today we will talk about Meeting Survival. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Changing the Conversation: Conflict Skills for Nice People PART 2

Changing the Conversation: Conflict Skills for Nice People PART 2

Conflict at work is inevitable, and conflict at home is inevitable. Welcome to Part 2 of Changing the Conversation, specifically, Conflict Skills for Nice People. It is not a matter of if we experience conflict; it is a matter of when we will experience it and what our options are when we run into conflict. Discover more at amalcandido.com & follow me on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.