Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast

Ever had someone question your polyamorous or non-monogamous relationships—or share misconceptions about what polyamory really is? If you’re new to exploring non-monogamy, you might even find yourself wondering the same things! In this episode, we bust five of the most common and persistent myths that have shaped public perceptions, created unnecessary fears, and discouraged people from exploring non-monogamous relationships—even when they know monogamy isn’t the right fit: 🚫 Polyamory is only about sex 🚫 Polyamorous people can’t commit or do the work of being in a monogamous relationship 🚫 Polyamory is unnatural 🚫 Polyamory always leads to jealousy 🚫 Polyamory is just a phase until you find the "right person" + if you truly loved someone, you wouldn’t need anyone else We dive into why these myths simply aren’t true, sharing personal stories, real-life examples, and insights from our years of coaching, therapy practices, and lived experiences in the polyamorous community. 💡 Whether you’re poly-curious, have been practicing non-monogamy for years, or simply want to understand more about consensual non-monogamy, this episode is packed with eye-opening truths and valuable takeaways. We’d love to hear your thoughts! If you’re listening on Spotify, drop us a comment. Join our Let's Talk Polyamory private Facebook group to ask questions, share your experiences, and connect with others. 🎧 Tune in now to debunk these myths and discover the truth about polyamory and non-monogamy! Show Resources: Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠ The Little Book of Poly Love - Join the list to be informed when it’s released -  https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferSex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality,  by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.comLooking for coaching support?  Book a consultation call with Tara - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠

What does being BISEXUAL mean to you? Is it simply about who you're attracted to, or does it extend to your identity, expressions, and how you move through the world? Are you proudly out or navigating life in the closet? In this episode, B is for BISEXUALITY: Identity, Expressions Myths & Realities, we explore bisexuality in all its rich and wonderful dimensions. We unpack what it means to identify as bisexual, debunk common myths, and dive into the stats behind this often-misunderstood identity. We also explain other related identities and expressions  including fluid, omnisexual, pansexual, queer, bigender, and androgynous. We examine how bisexual people are sometimes perceived by stereotypes - like the “tourist” trope or the idea that bisexuality is “just a phase”—and highlight research (like a study from Cornell University) that challenges those narratives. We confront invisibility, erasure, and biphobia, exploring the ways these challenges shape the lives of bi folks. Of course, it wouldn’t be one of our episodes without a few detours! Along the way, we also chat about squirting, the G-area (aka the G-spot), P-spot stimulation, orgasms, and pleasure. This is one of our most personal, revealing episodes yet—full of insights, humour, and plenty of thought-provoking moments. Don’t miss it! This is part of our T&A Alphabet Series, originally broadcast as live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community and on YouTube. The series covers a wide range of topics related to non-monogamy, relationships, identity, and sexuality, and we are thrilled to share it with our podcast audience throughout Season 2 and beyond. ✨ COMING IN 2025: Many of the terms and insights from this series will feature in our T&A Picture Book, a visual and accessible guide to navigating non-monogamy, relationships, and identity. Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s available! Need support in having wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for POLY NEWBIES - The Course! https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse Show Resources: The Little Book of Poly Love - Join the list to be informed when it’s released -  https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.comLooking for coaching support?  Book a consultation call with Tara - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠ Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠ Episode 33: How to Talk to Kids with Ms. Ashley Robertson - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mNuk3UkfqUJGWV79BnA4S?si=Y9xSQUxVQKa8gX9pPoy_0g

Many people think of orgasms as the ultimate destination when it comes to pleasure, but the truth is, they’re just one part of the journey. If you’ve ever struggled with orgasms or thought it was just about physical stuff, buckle up—this episode will have you rethinking a lot of things, taking notes and maybe even laughing along the way! In this episode A is for Anorgasmia and How to Have Awesome Sexual Pleasure we take a playful, yet deeply informative dive into: What anorgasmia actually is (spoiler: it’s more common than you think!). The different types of anorgasmia and the causes behind them. Statistics about anorgasmia and orgasms in general with some myth-busting included. How to talk about what you want to increase your pleasure! And how it’s important to get out of your head and into your body and senses for greater pleasure. We give an up close and person view into our own relationship and individual experiences with pleasure and sex. This is also a special episode as we share a story about talking to André’s 78 year mom about our openness as well as her own desires for dating and a long-term partner. Sadly Maman is no longer with us but there’s some lovely memories of her at the beginning of the episode. 💖 This kicks off our Alphabet Series a collection of trainings that were originally live broadcasted to our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group. In these lively talks, we unpack everything from non-monogamy and relationships, to sexuality, identity and everything in between.  We’re thrilled to bring these fan-favourites to the podcast throughout Season 2 and beyond, alongside brand-new episodes! ✨ COMING SOON: Many of the terms and concepts from this series and more will feature in our Little Book of Poly Love (working title) set to release in 2025. Add yourself to the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s available! Show Resources: The Little Book of Poly Love - Join the list to be informed when it’s released -  https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist Poly Newbies Digital Course -  https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com Looking for coaching support?  Book a consultation call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠ Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠ Club L Montreal - https://www.leclubl.com/ Relationship Visualization Exercise with Tara on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lnDKIkKD35g&t=27s Sensual Touch Partner Experience with Tara & André - https://www.youtube.com/live/pl9i8PbfTXo?si=laNAJGNKzehnVm2D Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠⁠https://taraandandre.com/

Who doesn't want to make their way through the holidays with ease and comfort and as little drama as possible? The holiday season means time spent with friends, family and lovers. And it also can mean a few other things… having to make tough choices on where to be and when to be there, WHO to be with? having to deal with family members that don't necessarily agree with your relational choices or partner(s)needing to de-stress & prioritize fun and sexy times in between all the holiday obligations And if anything is feeling shaky in terms of your non-monogamy journey, the holidays can be, as André describes "miracle grow for your feelings" and amplify those issues making things stressful or uncomfortable. In this podcast episode we talk in detail about 5 things you can do now to set your holidays up for success and start 2025 feeling much more secure: Reflect on the past yearConduct a thorough RAADAR Relationship Review to assess the health and dynamics of your relationships and connections using the Do some pre-planning - the who, what, where, when, and howSharpen your effective communication skills and communicate your needs, wants and desires to partnersPrepare and build your toolkit and get direct or indirect support! Interwoven in this discussion as always are a ton of gems of knowledge and stories from their personal experiences and those of friends and people we work with. And if you're looking for holiday gift that keeps on giving for your partner and yourself that will allow you start 2025 feeling FAB-U-LOUS-LY SECURE, sign up for our 7-module Poly Newbies Digital Course! And don't worry about having to do it all right away, you'll have a full 6 months to get it all done! We have a special offer for our podcast listeners and Let's Talk Polyamory community. Find out more here - ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠ Show Resources: Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferOpen Relationship & Polyamory Mastery Program - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Let’s Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Multiamory Podcast - https://www.multiamory.com/podcast Fit Feels Good by Oonagh Duncan (the health and fitness program Tara is a part of) - https://www.fitfeelsgood.com/ Need support and curious about coaching or therapy? Book a consultation call with us: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠

What essentials need to be in your Poly Newbie Survival Kit? Are you new to non-monogamy or opening up a relationship? In this episode, we’ll equip you with a list of the tools, insights, and strategies you need to thrive—and avoid some of the most common challenges along the way.  These essential steps are drawn straight from our 7-module Poly Newbies Digital Course, designed to set you up for success: 1️⃣ The Basics of Non-Monogamy: Key definitions, identifying your “why,” and navigating your hopes and fears. 2️⃣ Choosing Your Style: Exploring what kind of non-monogamy aligns with your needs and desires. 3️⃣ Mastering Communication: Building connection, eliminating toxic patterns, and speaking your truth effectively. 4️⃣ Rightsizing Jealousy: Understanding this complex emotion and cultivating greater security. 5️⃣ Attachment Styles: Discovering yours and moving toward secure attachment. 6️⃣ Boundaries & Agreements: Creating personal boundaries and our signature Values-Based Relationship Agreements™. 7️⃣ Keeping It Awesome: Relationship check-ins, dating tips, and maintaining the spark! ✨ Plus, we dive into juicy extras, including: The stages of polyamory—from curious newbies to seasoned veterans.Whether there’s a “right” age to explore non-monogamy.Surprising challenges when opening up an already solid relationship. All this and personal stories from our own non-monogamy journey! 🎉 Hit play and start your journey toward thriving in non-monogamy! 🎧💖 Show Resources & Special Offers: 💥 Black Friday Poly Newbies Digital Course Offer at $27 for 6 months of access until 11:59PM Eastern Dec 2 - ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesblackfriday⁠ Poly Diaries Docs-Series - Subscribe and listen to our diary entries and others at https://www.youtube.com/@PolyDiaries Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com  Have questions about our course or looking for private individual or couple’s coaching? Book a consultation call with host Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/15mincoffeechat Join the Community: Connect will other polyamorous folk here - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠ Learn more: Explore our services, programs and more at ⁠⁠https://taraandandre.com/

When there's been dishonesty, a betrayal or cheating in a relationship, it can result in a loss of trust that's hard to recover from. This episode is part 2 of a two part-series on Building, Rebuilding, and Maintaining Trusts in Relationships. In Part 1, we explored: What trust really is and why it’s essentialHow to build a strong foundation of trustCommon trust challengesAnd how to nurture and maintain trust. In Part 2, we pick up where we left off with a recap on what trust is and how trust can be lost specifically in non-monogamous relationships. We then share specific strategies on how you can rebuild trust as a result of any of these things or other setbacks such as: Understanding the reasons behind the breachReleasing anger and resentmentRebuilding trust with consistent actions and wordsDemonstrating commitment to repair the relationshipCommunication And getting support  We also share how you might recognize if is an isolated situation or if this person is not trustworthy and it isn’t in your best interest to trust them again. This episode is perfect for anyone navigating trust challenges and looking for practical, compassionate advice to create more secure, resilient relationships. And, in celebration of Polyamory Day on November 23 our gift to you is that you can get our Poly Newbies Digital Course for just $27—a 90% savings off the regular $297 price until Cyber Monday. Learn more at ⁠⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesblackfriday⁠⁠⁠ Show Resources: Black Friday Poly Newbies Digital Course Offer at $27 for 6 months of access - ⁠⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesblackfriday⁠⁠ Stream episode 32 Building, Rebuilding and Maintaining Trust in Relationship - Part 1 on Spotify ⁠hhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/77sWeDAKTKK2jAbTcZzOiQ?si=XhbvoPvQTpaGXdzycP0GJA⁠ or on your favourite podcasting platform.Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at ⁠andreturcottepsych@gmail.com⁠  Looking for private individual or couple’s coaching? Book a consultation call with host Tara at: ⁠⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠⁠ Join our online free Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠⁠ Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠⁠⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠

You may not find it surprising but we talk about non-monogamy, relationships, sex and related topics A LOT, especially when we are driving or travelling. We were having one such conversation recently and decided to record it as we felt our listeners would find it helpful to hear as we work through and discuss a situation that arose for us personally around possible STI exposure and how we might handle sharing how we feel about upcoming plans with friends. In this episode we cover: The importance of regular testing and how often we get tested.What you need to test for.How you can contract certain STIs and how to reduce your risk.The science behind testing frequency and the incubation periods for some common STIsThe concept of acceptable risk as it relates to sexual activities.How to incorporate sexual health and STI testing into your relationship agreements.How to share your personal boundaries around testing and agreements with possible partners. We encourage you to do your own research, inform yourself, talk to your doctor, talk to your partners and figure out what’s right for you! And as we asked during the podcast are these things you’ve considered and/or has this podcast changed what you think about wanting to be non-monogamous or in the lifestyle? Let us know in the comments! Show Resources: Black Friday Poly Newbies Digital Course Offer at $27 for 6 months of access - ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesblackfriday⁠ Health Line article on STI incubation periods - https://www.healthline.com/health/how-long-does-it-take-for-std-to-show-up Understanding Risk By Sex Act - CATIE - https://www.catie.ca/safer-sex-guide/understanding-risk-by-sex-act T&A Instagram - ⁠https://www.instagram.com/taraandandre/⁠ Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail .com Struggling and need support? Reach out and book a free call with us: ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue⁠ Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly⁠ Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠⁠https://taraandandre.com/

Talking to kids about topics like non-monogamy, sex, intimacy, kink and relationships can sometimes  feel daunting parents. It's easy to worry about saying the wrong thing, making things awkward, or just plain messing it up.  In this episode, we sit down with sexuality educator Ms. Ashley Robertson for a deep dive into guiding these conversations with kids of all ages—from toddlers to teens and beyond! Together, we share practical tips, advice, and recommended approaches for discussing these topics at every stage. We cover what the focus should be, how to approach these subjects, which words to use, and even how long these conversations should go. We also discuss what not to say, how to avoid oversharing, and ways to build a “scaffold” of knowledge that helps your kids climb layer by layer without falling off. We touch on essentials like when and how to introduce non-monogamy and partners to kids, what to say if a partner is no longer in your life, and how to manage those moments when kids bring up people from your past that you’d rather forget. And we explore concepts like “chosen family,” the “onion” and “buffet” analogies, being an “askable adult,” consent and how kids are “bystanders”, the “skipping stones” strategy for teens and more! Plus, we answer questions from our Let’s Talk Polyamory community.  And… spoiler alert ...a lot of these tips are great for adult conversations, too! Tune in for practical advice, a few laughs, and all the insights you need to make these talks a little less intimidating and a lot more meaningful! You’re going to love it! Resources: Black Friday Poly Newbies Digital Course Offer at $27 for 6 months of access - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesblackfriday Website Ms. Ashley Robertson: https://www.msashleyrobertson.com/ Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/msashleyrobertson Ms. Ashely's booklist - https://docs.google.com/document/d/1WaZGbek31WYEbHcdPB3NJd4CKj5dIUhmjmmOL3zheAM/edit?usp=sharing - The 2 books mentioned in our conversation: Penny and the Plain Piece of Paper by Miri Leshem-Pell and Can I Give You a Squish? by Emily NeilsonDSM -  Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. We specifically referred to the DSM-5 - This is an article that might be helpful - https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/fetishes-and-dsm-v-when-is-kink-mental-health-issue-0829138 T&A Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/taraandandre/ Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠

In this two-part series we take a deep dive into one of the most essential—and sometimes challenging—aspects of relationships: TRUST!   Recently many our the Let's Talk Polyamory private Facebook group and in our individual coaching and therapy practices have raised TRUST as an issue they are currently facing in their relationships.  For some it is because of a specific situation that occurred, like a betrayal, while for others, the issue of trust goes a bit deeper and stems from past experiences in relationships with previous partners, friends or family. In this special series we explore the ins and outs of building, maintaining, and restoring trust, whether in monogamous or non-monogamous relationships. In Part 1 we cover: What is TRUST?How people approach trust in relationships.Signs of trust issues and what might be behind this for you.How to build a foundation for trust in your relationships from the start.How trust might be broken in relationships with some specific examples related to unique dynamics of non-monogamous relationships. In Part 2, we will tackle the tough topic of rebuilding trust after it’s been lost.  Whether you’re looking to set up a rock-solid foundation or need tools to heal from trust setbacks in your relationship or yourself, this series has you covered.  This is the perfect starting point  for anyone navigating trust challenges and looking for practical, compassionate advice to create more secure, resilient relationships. Comment with your stories of trust or loss of trust and if this episode resonated with you! Please 💖comment, ✅subscribe, ➡️share and 📝write a review so others can find us! We really appreciate it! Show Resources: Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Struggling and need support? Reach out and book a free call with us: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Let’s Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠Episode 27: From DADT To All the Juicy Details - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4nrCqhyEG4kWwUNyJoIKg0?si=8Q77o-L3Q7WvdSK6-qf33QEpisode 8: How is My Attachment Style Impacting My Relationships - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3KUuTKZQKRNHBISBeynIvq?si=olltBVI7S6in5XPIwzMUAQEpisode 3: Combating Jealousy and NRE with Awesome Communication - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4cRoyUXHdgpWMWlgAb3q8w?si=q3TPfFpOSzehJrCPx3BYxA

Sex... we love it, we want it, and, for many, it is part of our "why" behind being consensually non-monogamous in the first place.   Having said that, if we've been intimate, or in a relationship, with someone for a longer period of time, things can sometimes feel a little stale.  At the same time, the ⚡️New Relationship Energy (NRE) we may be experiencing with others we are in relationships with might feel exciting and super 🔥hot! In this episode we talk about the 69 Ways to Amplify Your Sex Life with Your Partners!  Ok.. so maybe not quite 69, but there are 5 main areas (with lots of sexy suggestions under each) which will support you increasing DESIRE in ALL your relationships: Scheduling sexIncreasing sexual energyCommunicating your desiresTrying something newKissing and other methods of connecting and intimacy As part of this cover topics like responsive desire, dirty talking, disentanglement, Sensate Focus and more! Join us at the 💋Toronto Taboo: Everyhing To Do With Sex Show - October 18-20, 2024. We are giving away passes - enter to win via the link below ⬇️ Show References: Toronto Taboo: All About Sex Show - Info on the show here - https://tabooshow.com/toronto - the free draw is now over! The numbers that André refers to is from an episode of Friends where Monica and Rachel share with Chandler the 7 pleasure zones - https://youtu.be/3NLVior-nLs?si=8O00KWgHzprasGAW Dr. Liz Powell - Talk Dirty to Me - https://drlizpowell.com/talkdirty/ Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery Coaching Program - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Struggling and need support? Reach out and book a free call with us: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠

Welcome to Season 2 of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast! We are kicking things off with a hotly debated topic: Can Mono-Poly Relationships Really Work?  What happens when one partner is monogamous while the other embraces polyamory? Are these relationships destined for failure, or can they actually thrive? Mono-Poly relationships come with unique challenges—navigating asymmetrical freedoms (where one partner has multiple emotional and/or sexual relationships and the other doesn’t), balancing time and attention, and dealing with jealousy and insecurity. In this episode, we break down these common struggles, discuss why people might choose this dynamic, and tackle some of the biggest misconceptions. We also share actionable strategies for making these relationships work—like mastering open communication, setting personal boundaries, and using our Values-Based Agreements™ model. Plus, we’ll dive into compersion, or finding joy in your partner’s happiness with others, and talk about the importance of seeking expert support. If you’ve ever wondered whether a Mono-Poly relationship can truly flourish, or if you’re in one and looking for ways to make it work—this episode is for you! Show References: Toronto Taboo Show - Enter to win a free pass - https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/taboo2024drawOpen Relationship and Polyamory Mastery Coaching Program - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Struggling and need support? Reach out and book a free call with us: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠

Thank you for an amazing first season of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast!  We will be back with Season 2 and brand new episodes starting in late September 2024.  In Season 2 we are inviting some very special guests to join us to take a deeper dive into how you can successfully navigate consensual non-monogamy making it secure, adventurous and even more sexy! In the meantime you can catch up on this season’s episodes where we talked about: How open relationships workJealousyHow to avoid the mistakes we made when opening upCommunicationSex parties 101BoundariesAccidental PolyamoryHow to avoid polyamory risks and threatsNew Relationship EnergyHow to reignite the fire in long term relationships And More!  If you want a secure foundation for your open or polyamorous relationship so you can have a lifetime of pleasure and satisfaction, join us for our next cohort of Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery which begins in October. Sign up now and get access right away to all the training modules and content! It will give you extra time to get started before we jump into the live coaching calls in October! Learn More and sign up at: https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Show references: Poly Newbies Digital Course - ⁠⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer⁠⁠Get our latest free worksheet - ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/gettheworksheet⁠Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠⁠https://taraandandre.com/⁠

It's said that in successful relationships, there's always a KITE and a STRING. Which are you? You may have heard of this metaphor which is often used to describe dynamics in monogamous couples, however in this episode: Kites & Strings: Relationship Roles and Dynamics in Non-Monogamy, we take a polyamory spin on it and talk about how it may apply to the world of non-monogamous relationships as well! We explore what it means to be a kite or a string, how these roles may shift when we interact with other kites and strings either in a dating or lifestyle/swinging situation, and the dynamics of pairing with different types of partners.  We also discuss how someone might yearn to step into a different role than they usually occupy—like someone with kids and family responsibilities who gets to feel the exhilarating freedom of being the kite when with another partner and how they might secretly want their other partner to offer them this opportunity as well! We give specific examples of how you can be a “switch” and bring excitement into your relationships and how this might offset resentments around always having to be one thing!  And it wouldn’t be a podcast without some playful fun and teasing about our own tendencies to be the kite and string in our relationship! Show References: Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery Coaching Program. We have a new cohort beginning in October 2024. Reach out and let us know if you want to be informed when we are ready to start! https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer - available now! Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠

While we all know that open and honest communication is the key to relationships success, a recent University of California study found that there’s plenty of people would rather not know certain details about what their partner is up to! This is one of the big questions that people often struggle with, and are often at odds with, in non-monogamous relationships.  Some prefer the DADT - don’t ask, don’t tell - model where everything is unsaid. It’s a … I’d rather not know because what I don’t know won’t hurt me? However, as we said to a coaching client recently and talk about in this episode, when we avoid hearing from our partners about their experiences completely, our brains “fill in the blanks” and that story is often much worse than knowing the truth. There's others that LOVE to share all the details about their encounters with others and those that want to hear everything, but there's the matter of privacy of others to consider. And some people are ok with some details but want certain things left out.  We cover all these things and more in this exciting episode - How Much Do I Want To Know: From DADT to ALL the Juicy Details! And if you're newly navigating non-monogamy or facing some bumpy territory, we've got you! Our Poly Newbies Digital Course https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer - has a proven system that will provide you with a foundation for success! AND is now at a special price for our followers and our online community! Other Show References: Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery - our deeper dive program which includes coaching from us. New cohort starting October 2024! https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Book an Introductory Pay What You Can Coaching Call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and how to get awesome free resources at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ ⁠

Personal boundaries… they’re the imaginary lines we can draw around ourselves to maintain balance and protect our bodies, minds, emotions, and time for ourselves and from the behaviour or demands of others.  Our boundaries are most effective when we are first clear about them ourselves and then when we communicate them to others. If you find it hard to share your boundaries, you are not alone.  Even  when someone crosses our boundaries (intentionally or unintentionally), common worries are that we are asking for too much, being too difficult or if we say something, they might not like us. In this episode you’ll learn: ✅ What personal boundaries are vs. agreements or rules we might have with our partner(s); ✅ Why boundaries are important (hint: it’s about you) ✅ How to set your boundaries; ✅ How to communicate them; and ✅ Why people want to know your boundaries Download our Building and Communicating My Personal Boundaries FREE WORKSHEET which will guide you in setting your boundaries and having them stick! If you'd like it to feel EASIER to communicate your boundaries and feel SECURE in your open or polyamorous relationship, we can help! Book a complimentary call where we can speak confidentially about your personal circumstances and how we can work together OR jump right into our Poly Newbies Digital Course or Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery coaching program which have proven systems that will provide you with a foundation for success! Show References: Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery Coaching Program - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferGet the Free Building and Communicating Boundaries Worksheet - https://go.taraandandre.com/gettheworksheetLet’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Find out more about us and services, programs and more at ⁠https://taraandandre.com/ Note this previously aired live in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group where viewers shared comments which we read during this episode.

You’ve probably seen the various “rules” out there that attempt to cleverly use numbers to describe what you should or shouldn’t do in a relationship or when dating. Having rules and guidelines to follow to lead you to a desired outcome can be helpful and even comforting. Like the 2-2-2 one that suggests that couples should go on a date once every two weeks, spend a weekend away every two months and take a week-long vacation every two years. Others are just plain awful. There's the 6-6-6-6 rule that women with "high standards" should only look for men who are 6 feet tall, with a 6 inch 🍆, six figure salary and a six-pack! In this episode we take an informative and humorous look at these relationship rules, debunk the myths and as always provide expert solid advice on what things you might want to consider to have secure, successful and sexy polyamorous relationships! There's even some food talk in there to keep you entertained with references to yams, sausages and oysters! We would love to hear your take on these numerical rules, what your favorites were and any that we missed (good advice or otherwise). If you’re listening on Spotify you can now add comments to each episode! We want to continue to keep this podcast free and reach as many people as possible so it would help us a lot of you hit the like button, subscribe, share with your friends and write a review! Show references: Let's Talk Polyamory Online Dating Guide - https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/onlinedatingguidePoly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferNew Relationship Energy: The Awesome and the Awful - Season 1, Episode 21 - https://open.spotify.com/episode/6IbCK3XZ1louXULbFvAwyR?si=2DxjYeOaRQmep_H8wr8ZFAWeek of Visibility for Non-Monogamy - https://www.weekofvisibility.com/8 Rules of Love by Jay Shetty - https://8rulesoflove.com/The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right by Ellen Fein & Sherrie Schneider. Originally published in 1995 and they’ve followed up with several books on this. https://therulesbook.com/Taryn Newton-Gill, Dating and Attachment Coach of Truer Love - https://www.truerlove.com/love-coaching

Have you heard the term ACCIDENTAL POLYAMORY? This is what some call those unexpected journeys that lead individuals and couples into exploring polyamory dynamics either as a willing participant or with some fear or resistance. In this episode, Accidental Polyamory: Now What? we cover 3 different unexpected scenarios one can find themselves in. Imagine you're in a monogamous relationship, and suddenly, one partner expresses a desire to explore consensual non-monogamy or open the relationship. How do you navigate those conversations and potential changes?  Or, picture this: you're single and enjoying the dating scene when you meet someone amazing, only to find out they are polyamorous. How do you handle being with someone with multiple partners, and determine if this is a relationship style that suits you? Maybe you’re already non-monogamous - like a swinger or in an open relationship - and then you or your partner start developing deeper emotional connections and want to shift to a more polyamorous model. How do you handle this significant change? We share other definitions and terms you might come across in these situations like cowboy/cowgirl and poly-bombing. Join us as we share real stories, expert insights, and practical advice for anyone finding themselves unexpectedly on the path to polyamory.  Whether you’re curious about polyamory, already practicing some form of non-monogamy or simply interested in the diverse ways people love and connect, this episode is for you! Resources referenced in this episode: S1 Ep21- NRE: The Awesome and the Awful https://open.spotify.com/episode/6IbCK3XZ1louXULbFvAwyR?si=C7mzQLx9ReSXw-POBvW2UQ S1 Episodes 17 & 18 - How to Securely Transition Into Different Ways of Doing Consensual Non-Monogamy https://open.spotify.com/episode/0tknogIG4ATioM7uLmMrrt?si=CE4ylclOQsCyr5Jbtt2g-Q & https://open.spotify.com/episode/1VuLR3blPCLTOpuaKw0bcO?si=So2i9us1R2qtlpZbtddZUwPoly Newbies Digital Course Special Offer- ⁠https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse⁠⁠Find out more about us, our service and access some pretty cool resources at https://www.taraandandre.com/

Thinking about opening your relationship or diving into polyamory? It sounds thrilling and 🔥hot, right? Imagine the excitement of meeting new people and having the freedom to explore both emotional and sexual connections with them. For us, it's been an incredible and fulfilling journey, surpassing our wildest dreams. But, there are some unexpected risks and challenges that can threaten the security of any relationship. In this episode, we share our personal experiences and cover the things you'll want to be ready for including: ✨ Feeling different than you might imagine. ✨ How your attachment style and your partner(s)'s can influence your experiences. ✨ The gap between your expectations and reality. ✨ You don't know what you don't know. ✨ You might not be as great a communicator as think you are and you'll need to communicate more than you'd expect. ✨ You are not as prepared as you believe! We share specific examples for each point and provide insights on how to better prepare yourself for the unexpected as you navigate your personal journey! Resources referenced in this episode: - Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse⁠ - S1E8 podcast episode: How is My Attachment Style Impacting My Relationships  - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3KUuTKZQKRNHBISBeynIvq?si=R2jyYOCDT1ueCM4BgIzatQ  - Attachment Quiz - https://quiz.attachmentproject.com/  - S1E5 podcast episode: Sex Parties 101: A Guide to Being the Best Host and Great Guest - https://open.spotify.com/episode/3cOwAFpV7tpRgR56tzRtvf?si=ZRUMtrsaSp-VBd83LUyM2g  * all podcast episodes also available on Apple and YouTube podcasts, Amazon Music and iHeart Radio

At some point in your journey towards non-monogamy someone you know has likely said to you "I could never do that. I'm too jealous!" Maybe you've even wondered this about yourself or have been afraid that you aren't cut out for non-monogamy given some of the strong feelings you've felt. While jealousy is one of the main things that people are challenged with when opening a relationship or experiencing polyamory for the first time, and it can be intense and feel all consuming, there are ways of understanding your jealousy and finding of ways to work through these feelings so that you can shift to being neutral or even experiencing compersion! 💖 Pinky swear! And... a little myth busting... the reality is that most non-monogamous people experience jealousy or insecurity under certain circumstances from time to time. The key is to learn how to be less impacted by it. In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast we dive into this topic and share with you the 6 things you can do starting now to feel more secure in your relationships! Resources referenced in this episode: Our courses and programs ❤️Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery at ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery⁠ and our ⚡️Poly Newbies Digital Course at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferBook a Pay What You Can Coaching Session with Tara at ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession⁠ Sign up to get our FREE Jealousy Worksheet at https://go.taraandandre.com/gettheworksheet  Find out more about us and the services we offer as well as access some other great resources on our website at: ⁠https://www.taraandandre.com/⁠

New Relationship Energy, or NRE, sometimes gets a bad rap in polyamory as while one person may be experiencing the highs of being with someone new, others that they are in relationships may feel left behind, or jealous or find it threatening to the security of that connection... hence the "awful" But it’s not all about putting out forest fires.  There’s nothing wrong with new relationship energy in itself, and in fact it can be an "awesome" experience for all involved.  One of the amazing things about polyamory is that it allows people to experience all the magic of new love without destroying long-term, stable relationships in the process - and may even breathe new energy and pleasure into them! There are always considerations or things to navigate whether you’re the person experiencing the NRE with someone new, the new person or the people they are in relationships with. We talk about all of these things and more in this podcast episode! We want to encourage and support spreading the word of polyamory and normalize it as a valid relational identity - one which can be secure and long-lasting! To help you and others to learn more, we’ve decided to reduce our profit on our 7-Module Poly Newbies Digital Course so that more people can access this valuable resource. You can find this special offer at https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer You can book a Pay What You Can Coaching Session with Tara at ⁠https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession⁠  Want to know more about us, find out about our other coaching and therapy services or book us for your event or podcast? 👉 ⁠https://taraandandre.com/⁠