Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast

Karine Bedard

Learning how to Break Free from religious and social programming to truly live a life of authenticity and pleasure. We look at how shifting our mindset about Sex and Sexuality can radically change our relationships and allow them to be more fun, honest, safe, connected, ethical and authentic. We delve into Sex Positivity and what that is while also looking at things like Love Languages, Attachment Styles, and Boundaries to help us Break Free from relationship myths that are keeping us stuck in a world that isn't quite the right fit. We long for true authentic connections and the ability to completely be ourselves. Let's start living! Follow me on Instagram @karinebedardcoaching

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What is Breaking Free Authentically?
29-06-2022
What is Breaking Free Authentically?
Welcome to Breaking Free Authentically, The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast.  I’m your host Karine Bedard, and as an Elite Relationship Designer and Empowerment and Sex Positive Relationship Coach, I am passionate about helping my clients Break Free from the religious and societal programming they have been given about Sexuality and Relationships.  We are taught that there is a right way to do things and that Sex is shameful for some reason.  Even if we are not religious, we do not realize how much religion actually informs our social programming, which filters down into everything else in our lives.I aim to kick shame and guilt to the curb so that we can start living authentically and design the types of relationships that we want to have, not only the ones society deems as acceptable.  Maybe you were taught that Monogamy is the only way and that if a relationship doesn’t last forever you have failed.  Well I’m here to dispel common myths and give you all the options when Designing or Redesigning your relationships. I seek to normalize Ethical Non-Monogamy.  Hey, don’t get me wrong, if you are monogamous and that’s what you want and that's what you choose, I’m all for that but let’s do it beautifully, honestly, and in a way where both partners thrive.  There is no need to judge others for their choices.I’m a Bible School Graduate turned Playboy Enthusiast!  My life changed completely when I discovered the absolute beauty of a Sex Positive Mindset in my life.  The freedom to finally be myself while still being ethical and honest.  I want to show you all the possibilities available when you are willing to take a second look and Redesign your mindset.  I want you to find a community where you can be exactly who you are meant to be without judgment.  It’s a beautiful life.We think nothing of redesigning our homes to meet our continually changing needs and desires, why should relationships be any different.Let’s Break Free Authentically!Tune into Episode 1 to hear my story of Breaking Free from a very Fundamentalist, Evangelical Christian Background.  I was all in and loved my life.  You’ll see how my journey is now helping couples and individuals to live Empowered, Honest, and Ethical lives.I will be covering all kinds of topics as they relate to sex positivity and relationships. It will be a solo podcast with the occasional guest co-host and interview.  I’m so excited to take you on an incredible journey into my magical world! You can find this podcast on any podcast app that exists including, of course, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Google podcasts, and Amazon to name just a few.  New episodes will be released  every Wednesday at 9am to help you get through Hump Day in a more Empowered way.  I hope you’ll join me on this journey as we explore the world of possibilities through a Sex Positive lens.  When it comes to Sex Positivity, Authenticity is the Key!
How to Break the Cycle and Finally Accept Yourself
5d ago
How to Break the Cycle and Finally Accept Yourself
Episode20: How to Break the Cycle and Finally Accept Yourself Explicit This week's topic is so critical for having healthy relationships. It really is the foundation for everything. We cannot continue to expect others to give us the love we are unwilling to give ourselves. My guest Jen McCutcheon and I have a beautiful discussion about breaking out of the cycle of self sabotage and finally accepting ourselves. What a beautiful way to live!To truly accept ourselves we need to let go of needing validation from others. We must be able to show ourselves compassion and let go of judgement towards ourselves. We all need love and support and it's ok to reach out to others. There is no shame in that. It's ok to take a break. It's ok to get help. Self love is not selfish, it is in fact mandatory for our wellbeing and the wellbeing of everyone around us. Jennifer McCutcheon is a Consciousness Coach, owner of Truly Connected who specializes in helping mothers of children struggling with addiction reclaim their lives. She is passionate about empowering women. Using customized tools, including mindfulness, movement, and self love, Jen strives to reconnect women with their true identity, confidence and power. Guiding beautiful souls in living purposeful, joy-filled, and authentic lives.If you would like to learn more about Jen you can check out these links:WebsiteInstagramFacebookDon't forget to book you discovery call for my "6 Week Breaking Free Mentorship" below!Book a Complimentary Discovery Call Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com
You Can't Be Free Sexually If You're Not Free!
16-11-2022
You Can't Be Free Sexually If You're Not Free!
Episode19: You Can't Be Free Sexually If You're Not Free! Explicit "You can't be FREE sexually if you're not FREE!" ~Glen MitchellI had the pleasure of having this conversation with Hypnotherapist Glen Mitchell. We discuss what freedom actually is and how to have it. Freedom begins and ends in the same place; the mind! Victor Frankle in his book "Man's Search For Meaning," says that the only freedoms we have are the ones we create in our own mind. We can control how we respond to a situation even if we can't control the situation. That is freedom.There is so much freedom in the power of CHOICE!Glen Mitchell is a Hypnotherapist, specialising in working with all anxiety conditions and helping people to create a Limitless Mindset! He's also a Hypnotherapy teacher and well-being enthusiast! Glen is the co-facilitater of the amazing "Freedom from Sugar Addiction Programme" with Charlotte Harris.He trained in hypnotherapy 6 years ago, and has been teaching hypnotherapy for the last 18 months. He is married with two children (sorry ladies) and has many reptile pets!Here's where you can find Glen on Social Media:FacebookInstagramDon't forget to book your discovery call for my "6 Week Breaking Free Mentorship" below!Book a Complimentary Discovery Call Click here to Register for the "Empowered Lifestyle Newcomers VIP Experience" on November 18th, 2022Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com
Breaking Free Sexually
09-11-2022
Breaking Free Sexually
Episode18: Breaking Free Sexually Explicit In today's episode we really dig into what it looks like to Break Free Sexually. Sometimes the programming is so deep either through indoctrination or our culture. Regardless, it becomes imbedded in our consciousness and unless we are willing to take a look at what we actually believe, we won't ever be free sexually. The awakening process forces us to shed some of the programming that certainly every woman has had. However, men also struggle to break free from the programming. I am thrilled to have my dear friend and colleage Lorna Gale, on the show today. She is a teacher by nature and by training and brings to her work over 30 years as an educator: in schools, energy healing, bodywork, somatic sex education, D/s, Somatic MindSet, story writing and unweaving, and holistic life mentoring. Lorna came to the work of somatic sex education and spiritual mentorship through her own spiritual journey and mid-life sexual awakening. When you hear Lorna speak, you will know that she speaks from her own experience, with a passion and mission to help people see through their stories into the lens and portal of divine feminine power, sexuality, and leadership, moving beyond shame, sin, and guilt, trauma, disconnection and disassociation so they can experience embodied sexual and spiritual wholeness, live their truth erotically alive and free, and in doing so, change their world.Lorna says that the patriarchy is not just men, it's a whole structure that even women have bought into and we need to be willing to take a look at it. Spiritual awakening is the ability to let go of shame and guilt and connect with yourself in a deep, intimate way. We need to tap into our bodies and listen to what they are telling us.How can we enjoy our sexuality if we aren't even aware of what our body wants or needs? It's important to get curious about our bodies so that we can communicate our desires with our partners. Trust me, they will appreciate the help if it's shared in a loving way.I hope you enjoy today's episode.Love, KarineDon't forget to book you discovery call for my "6 Week Breaking Free Mentorship" below!Book a Complimentary Discovery Call Click here to Register for the "Empowered Lifestyle Newcomers VIP Experience" on November 18th, 2022Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com If you would like to contact Lorna Gale, Sexual & Spiritual Embodiment Mentor, Elder, Priestess, Mother and Grand Mother, Teacher, Trainer, Award Winner, Speaker, Somatic Sexologist, Somatic MindSet Coach, Bondassage® Trainer and Practitioner, FemDomme, and the Creatrix and Mistress of Crimson Queen Consciousness Academy. She is a poet, writer, and story “unweaver” in the spiritualerotic realm where divine feminine energy and sacred masculine form reflect Spirit in the human experience.She has been the invited guest speaker on numerous programs and podcasts, including Awakening Spirituality, UPLIFT,...
How Vulnerability is a Superpower!
02-11-2022
How Vulnerability is a Superpower!
Episode17: How Vulnerability is a Superpower! Explicit Today's episode is an awesome conversation with my guest Joshua Ludlam, the Exponential Coach and BelongKing.Always looking for the possibility and the path to connection, he coaches and speaks on how to create powerful partnership, belonging and authentic expression in every area of life. He coaches leaders, entrepreneurs, and business owners on how to Become Exponential and when not working, immerses himself in play, fun and self expression. He is also a TEDx speaker and gave a talk called "Belong Anywhere, Thrive Everywhere" on the Dupree Park stage November 5, 2021. Watch it here.Today we have a powerful discussion on how vulnerability can be a superpower. Some use it as a tool to manipulate but we talk about how to express our authentic self in a powerful, genuine way instead. We learn the importance of sitting in discomfort and how being ok with it leads us to a clear direction about who we are meant to be in connection with. It is so freeing to not be scared of sharing your truth with others and asking for what you desire. These conversations can create defining moments in our lives if we are willing to take responsibility for our feelings and actions. We are faced with choices everyday and the energy in which we share ourselves with others is the most powerful shift we can make. True vulnerability is a superpower. It starts with being vulnerable with ourselves first. When we accept our deepest shadows and struggles, we can love ourselves in a way that bring freedom to everyone we are intimately connected with.Own your shit! Don't make your partner responsible for your emotions! Invite them in to share in your experience, not to fix it!Love,KarineIf you'd like to see more of Joshua Ludlam, his links are below.www.joshualudlam.comInstagram: @thejoshualudlam TikTok: thejoshualudlamDon't forget to book you discovery call for my "6 Week Breaking Free Mentorship" below!Book a Complimentary Discovery Call Click here to Register for the "Empowered Lifestyle Newcomers VIP Experience" on November 18th, 2022Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com
The Innocence of Sexuality  Part 2
26-10-2022
The Innocence of Sexuality Part 2
Episode16: The Innocence of Sexuality Part 2 Explicit Welcome to Part 2 of this conversation with my special guest and dear friend Rosanna "RozyGlow" Hanness. Today we get into the Innocence of Sexuality compared to how it is perceived by society as evil and shameful. We discuss the process of birth and how the fear of pain makes things worse. We need to be open to receive pain and let it flow through us to birth true joy in our lives. Every good thing has the potential for pain and discomfort but it is how we deal with that pain and accept it that determines how we fair in life.Rosanna is a channel of Divine Grace, CoCreatrice of Paradise Earth and the founder of the #StarPeace movement. StarPeace is designed to seed a positive narrative into the collective consciousness of humanity allowing a shift of perspective regarding the past and the present, so we can live a future we truly desire, personally and collectively. The Creatrice of both MultiDimensional Yoga and Coaching,  Rosanna empowers those she works with to rewrite their narrative, raise their vibration and choose to be part of the solution rather than the perceived problem. She delights in working with creatives and visionaries to raise their vibration so they create from their soul, rather than ego wounding, by claiming their power as CoCreators of their reality and aligning with the Win Win Win and the Highest good of all. This involves awakening MultiDimensional Consciousness in those who are heart centred influencers, whom Rosanna recognises as awakening StarSeeds, so the balance of power shifts from external authority to inner authority & sovereignty. As a psychic and intuitive, Rosanna has received the message from her connection to the Divine, that it is time for an era of PEACE and CoCreating through JOY. Her 22 year background as a fertility, pregnancy, birth, neonatal and early years expert, has involved teaching a holistic approach to these areas through yoga & raising awareness regarding the impact of how our earliest life shapes our physiology, subconscious expectations, health and life experience. Her work includes decoding our early human imprints so we can make a true connection with our soul consciousness.We talk about the energy of connection and how every connection whether sexual or not has an energy exchange. Sexuality holds an energetic component whether it is a deep, sacred interaction or just a fun playful session. There is still an exchange of energy with someone else. There is a level of vulnerablility in all of our interactions and we need to be aware of energy of those we engage with.There should be no shame in the interaction. We need to release shame and get curious. How do you feel in your body around this person? Do they take your energy or is there an equal exchange of energy? Or are you forcing your energy on someone who is not ready to receive it?We talk about honouring your boundaries and what you actually desire. It's important to know what you enjoy and be able to speak up for yourself. We revisit the concept of creating safety so that we can actually experience the innocence of pure, authentic sexuality. Checking in to our bodies before anything even happens can tell us how safe we feel is the first step to enjoying anything sexually.At the end of the day, it's about loving yourself deeply and being able to be authentic in your sexuality.Check out the lovely RosyGlow using these links:Instagram@rosyglow Linked In
The Innocence of Sexuality  Part 1
19-10-2022
The Innocence of Sexuality Part 1
Episode15: The Innocence of Sexuality Part 1 Explicit Today's guest is my dear dear friend Rosanna "RozyGlow" Hanness and we get into the Innocence of Sexuality and the difference of how it is perceived by society as evil and shameful.Rosanna is a channel of Divine Grace, CoCreatrice of Paradise Earth and the founder of the #StarPeace movement. StarPeace is designed to seed a positive narrative into the collective consciousness of humanity allowing a shift of perspective regarding the past and the present, so we can live a future we truly desire, personally and collectively. The Creatrice of both MultiDimensional Yoga and Coaching,  Rosanna empowers those she works with to rewrite their narrative, raise their vibration and choose to be part of the solution rather than the perceived problem. She delights in working with creatives and visionaries to raise their vibration so they create from their soul, rather than ego wounding, by claiming their power as CoCreators of their reality and aligning with the Win Win Win and the Highest good of all. This involves awakening MultiDimensional Consciousness in those who are heart centred influencers, whom Rosanna recognises as awakening StarSeeds, so the balance of power shifts from external authority to inner authority & sovereignty. As a psychic and intuitive, Rosanna has received the message from her connection to the Divine, that it is time for an era of PEACE and CoCreating through JOY. Her 22 year background as a fertility, pregnancy, birth, neonatal and early years expert, has involved teaching a holistic approach to these areas through yoga & raising awareness regarding the impact of how our earliest life shapes our physiology, subconscious expectations, health and life experience. Her work includes decoding our early human imprints so we can make a true connection with our soul consciousness.We talk about the energy of connection and how every connection whether sexual or not has an energy exchange. Sexuality holds an energetic component whether it is a deep, sacred interaction or just a fun playful session. There is still an exchange of energy with someone else. There is a level of vulnerablility in all of our interactions and we need to be aware of energy of those we engage with.There should be no shame in the interaction. We need to release shame and get curious. How do you feel in your body around this person? Do they take your energy or is there an equal exchange of energy? Or are you forcing your energy on someone who is not ready to receive it?We talk about honouring your boundaries and what you actually desire. It's important to know what you enjoy and be able to speak up for yourself. We revisit the concept of creating safety so that we can actually experience the innocence of pure, authentic sexuality. Checking in to our bodies before anything even happens can tell us how safe we feel is the first step to enjoying anything sexually.At the end of the day, it's about loving yourself deeply and being able to be authentic in your sexuality.Check out the lovely RosyGlow using these links:Instagram@rosyglow Linked Inwww.starpeaceconsciousness.comwww.rosyglow.com
Creating Safety from the HEART
12-10-2022
Creating Safety from the HEART
Episode14: Creating Safety from the HEART Explicit Today my special guest is Leanne Million Leanne Million, is a Relationship & Sexuality Coach specializing in the polyamorous, consensual non-monogamous and kink communities. We talk about how to create safety and hold space for loved ones in relationships. It is so important to know how to make people feel safe if we want to allow others to authentically communicate their truth. She takes us through a wonderful acrostic using the word HEART.Creating Safety in a Relationship by Opening Your HEARTH - Help or Hear? Ask what they need (listener) or ask what it is that you need (sharer).E - Each of you are autonomous individuals.A - Accept yourself and your partner. Give Attention - if you can't give a time when you can (receiver). Articulate clearly as you share or repeat what you heard them say (receiver) and Advocate for your needs as you go (both).R - Be Reliable (always do the above), Responsible for your "stuff," and Respectful of boundaries, agreements and differences.T - Transparency builds Trust. You're a Team. Tune-in to your partner afterwards to connect. Thank you partner.It's so important to be able to communicate your truth to those that we love but often it doesn't feel safe to do so and we wonder why we keep our thoughts to ourself and feel alone. Today we talk about how to communicate safely and how to hold a safe space for your partner.If you'd like to find out your Sexual Love Language, contact Leanne at support@leannemillion.com, and ask for the Sex Languages Quiz she created! Also let her know if you'd like to be added to her email list for future information. Leanne's Facebook group Leanne's Facebook page Leanne's Website Leanne on YouTube where you can listen to her podcast "The EMPOWERED POLY Podcast"@leannemillion on Instagram as well as @poly.thoughts Remember that I have my Breaking Free 6 Week Private Mentoring available. Book your complimentary Discovery Call below so that we can make sure you on the right track to live a sexually authentic life and relationship.Love, Karine XOBreaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com Book a Complimentary Discovery Call
Journey Away From Shame  Part 2
05-10-2022
Journey Away From Shame Part 2
Episode13: Journey Away From Shame Part 2 Explicit Today we finish the conversation with special guest and co-host Xavier Kain. We continue to talk about our journeys away from shame to authenticity. Our discussion starts with our connection with others and the beauty of finding your tribe. We laugh, tell stories, and go on tangents. Some of this weeks tangents take us to places like addiction, STIs, shifting and renegotiating relationships, along with sometimes having to end relationships. However, we try to maintain the thread of shame and it's effects throughout the conversation. See if we managed to keep the thread going. Regardless, it was a fun episode to record and I hope you learn a lot and can relate to what we share with you this week.Xavier Kain is an Ontario-based intimacy & sexual surrogate with a unique, holistic approach to sexual education and sexual wellness. His involvement in the kink community, study of psychosexual development, and passion for helping people work through their trauma led him to pursue sexual surrogacy as a career and field of interest.www.intimacy-works.comIf you want to know more about how to move away from shame to an empowered, authentic life regarding your sexuality, please reach out to me and book a complimentary discovery call. It's time to live authentically and have the relationships you desire. Don't make the costly mistake of trying to navigate this all on your own. I'm here for you and we can do this together. I'll hold your hand as you embark on this journey of growth, discovery and sexual athenticity. Let's release that shame!Love, KarineBreaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com Book a Complimentary Discovery Call
Journey Away From Shame  Part 1
28-09-2022
Journey Away From Shame Part 1
Episode12: Journey Away From Shame Part 1 Explicit Today I have a special guest co-host Xavier Kain. We talk about our journeys away from shame to authenticity. We discuss how religion played a part in the shame we felt in our lives. We laugh, tell stories, and go on tangents. However, we try to maintain the thread of shame and it's effects throughout the conversation. See if we managed to keep the thread going. Regardless, it was a fun episode to record and I hope you learn a lot and can relate to what we share with you this week.Xavier Kain is an Ontario-based intimacy & sexual surrogate with a unique, holistic approach to sexual education and sexual wellness. His involvement in the kink community, study of psychosexual development, and passion for helping people work through their trauma led him to pursue sexual surrogacy as a career and field of interest.www.intimacy-works.comIf you want to know more about how to move away from shame to an empowered, authentic life regarding your sexuality, please reach out to me and book a complimentary discovery call. Let's end the loneliness. There is a community waiting for you and it starts with me. I'm your greeter and Sex Positive Relationship Designer. Let's do this!Love, KarineBreaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com Book a Complimentary Discovery Call
Freedom & Red Flags  Part 2
21-09-2022
Freedom & Red Flags Part 2
Episode 11: Freedom & Red Flags Part 2 Explicit Today's episode features my lovely friend Connie Pretula .Connie Pretula, The Menopause Navigator and Holistic Wellness Strategist, creates bespoke and impactful health and wellness experiences to empower women to put themselves first so they can live their most vibrant and vivacious life after 50. At age 44 Connie was 30 pounds overweight, depressed, exhausted, and unhealthy. It took her another 9 years to start to get serious about her health and live a life fuelled by her goals and dreams, not someone else’s. Connie’s wake-up call was when her body was in pain 24/7, she was terrified about what her future life would be. After 34 years in the corporate world she left to follow her passion for nutrition, she still had so much she wanted to do and experience. Connie works one on one with a select group of women to help them create the life they always dreamed of after 50. Connie inspires women by living her best life authentically. Here are the ways you can get in contact with Connie and learn more about what she does.Connie's Facebook page @menopausenavigator on Instagram Connie's Website Connie on YouTube Today she finishes her story about polyamory and her experience. She talks about the wonderful Freedom and joy she experienced as she discovered this world. She is vulnerable about all the aspects of the experience including the negative ones and we unpack what went wrong, the Red Flags, and how to avoid this in the future. We find an ethical solution for how to better navigate these situations and learn more information on how to help us be more successful at living authentically.I hope you find this discussion helpful and can apply some of these things to your life and journey.Love, KarineP.S. Don't forget to join Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Community where we can discuss the podcast and any other topics related to Authenticity and Sex Positivity.Join our Private Facebook Community Breaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com Book a Complimentary Discovery Call and find out how we can work together.
Powerlessness to Passion in Relationships
07-09-2022
Powerlessness to Passion in Relationships
Episode 9: Powerlessness to Passion in Relationships Explicit Welcome back to Breaking Free Authentically! Today I have a special guest on the show. His name is Moritz Kerkmann Hood and he and his wife Sasha founded Kerkmann Hood Coaching. They are both experts on Human Sexuality.We talk about how to move from that feeling of powerlessness to rekindling passion once again in a relationship. We take you through a bit of the male vs female perspective to show how we all feel a sense of powerlessness for different reasons.Moritz has traveled the world to work on international photoshoots for Armani and Chanel with celebrities and top models like Naomi Campbell and Nicole Kidman. His artwork was published in Vogue magazine at a young age. He had a powerful experience that reshaped his perspective on what’s truly important to him and he dedicated his life to learning everything he could about intimacy in relationships and sexuality. He and his wife have created a family together while moving twice across the globe. Moritz is a visionary mentor for men and together they teach couples how to be empowered together and have passionate intimacy.Click here to receive Moritz' 3 Questions to the Best Sex and Connection in Relationship along with his FREE Micro Training!I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. He is such a great person with such a passionate heart for people and their relationships. I so passionate about that as well so I truly enjoy whenever we get a chance to talk.Enjoy!!Love, KarineBreaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com Book a Complimentary Discovery Call
Renegotiating and Redesigning Your Relationship
31-08-2022
Renegotiating and Redesigning Your Relationship
Episode8: Renegotiating and Redesigning Your Relationship Explicit Today I have a special guest on the show. We talk about renegotiating and redesigning our relationships. We change as we grow and so do our partners. It's important to realize that we are allowed to renegotiate a relationship. It should always be growing along with us. We are allowed to explore new things and have desires that don't conform to everyone else's standards. We talk about Conscious Uncoupling. We discuss sex clubs and how to not be "that guy." We talk about shame and sex and sex positivity. Finally, I have laid the groundwork so that we can start talking about implementing some of these things. I want you to hear real-life examples of people living and loving authentically.My guest is from Spain and her name is Regina Carbonell. She has 10 years of experience as a Lifestyle Designer and Coach. She now specializes in sex, intimacy, and relationships."Explore your shadow, your kinks and your dark side because happiness comes to us when we fully know ourselves." ~Regina CarbonellVisit her on FacebookCheck out her Merch!Google Join the Gender Revolution to find articles and other things of interest that she is involved with.[00:01] Welcome Intro[04:35] Introducing the Interview/Conversation[05:22] Introducing Regina Carbonell[07:00] Start of Interview[37:56] Closing RemarksBreaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com Book a Complimentary Discovery Call
Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Misconceptions
24-08-2022
Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Misconceptions
Episode7: Monogamy, Non-Monogamy, and Misconceptions Explicit Have you ever wondered what the differences are between Monogamy and Non-Monogamy? Well, today you find out and we also take a look at 8 common misconceptions associated with Ethical or Consensual Non-Monogamy. We also take a look at the History of Monogamy and how it came to be. Are we meant to be monogamous? Is it more natural?Tune in to find out!Everything You Wanted to Know About Ethical Non-Monogamy – SheKnowsA brief history of monogamy. | maudeGlossary of Terms – polyammering[03:00] Defining Monogamy and Ethical/ Consensual Non-Monogamy:Monogamy: traditionally it was one man and one woman united in a sexual/emotional relationship for lifeSerial Monogamy: this is more commonly what is practiced now in our culture.  People have emotional/sexual relationships with one person at a time but not necessarily the same person for lifeMonogamy / Monoamory / Monogamish[06:10] Four Types of Monogamy:SexualEmotionalSocialPractical[08:35] History of Monogamy[10:30] A Brief History of Monogamy from The Maudern[14:22] What is Ethical Non-Monogamy?In its most basic form, non-monogamy is any relationship that involves more than two people, where an outside or additional relationship is allowed. However, ethical is a very important qualifier that helps distinguish dynamics for the folks involved. “Ethically non-monogamous relationships are ones in which all people involved have negotiated the terms of and enthusiastically consented to non-monogamy, without feeling coerced into it,” explains Dr. Dulcinea Pitagora, NYC-based psychotherapist and sex therapist. [16:11]Swingers / Swinging / Lifestyle / LS [18:11]Open Relationship [19:30]Polyamory [20:35]Solo Poly [20:55]Relationship Anarchy [22:10]Misconceptions about Consensual Nonmonogamy from Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships[22:53]Misconception #1: Consensual Nonmonogamy Threatens the Institution of Marriage[29:53]Misconception #2: Consensually Nonmonogamous People Are at Higher Risk for Contracting STIs[35:20]Misconception #3: People Who Choose to Be in Alternative Relationships Are Incapable of Intimacy[42:02]Misconception #4: Cheating and Consensual Nonmonogamy Are Similar[44:51]Misconception #5: Designer Relationships Perpetuate Male Dominance at the Expense of Women[49:53]Misconception #6: Monogamy is Better for Children[53:24]Misconception #7: People in Nonmonogamous Relationships Have a Higher Rate of Separation and Divorce[57:13]Misconception #8: The End of a Relationship Represents a...
Relationship Myths and How They Affect Us
17-08-2022
Relationship Myths and How They Affect Us
Episode6: Relationship Myths and How They Affect Us Explicit Today we explore the relationship myths that keep us in unhealthy relationship patterns. We take a look at how it impacts the music we listen to about love and phrases we use regularly to convey love. We learn how to unpack some of these ideas to increase awareness about the effects of our programming on our relationships.[00:00] Intro[05:11] Dear Mr. McCartneyDr. Legs Letter to Mr. McCartney[10:22] My problematic Relationship Beliefs from My ManifestoMarriage is expected to last foreverMarriage is only between one man and one womanEmotional connections outside the marriage with the opposite sex is frowned uponMarriage should meet all our needsBeing married means you belong to your spouseSex outside of marriage is wrongJealousy and Self-sacrifice equals loveLoving more than one person intimately is not possibleSexual Freedom is shameful and Slut shaming is OKSex and Love are not mutually exclusiveSetting Boundaries in your life is mean especially in marriage[11:58] Problematic Phrases and QuotesYou complete meYou’re my everythingI’m nothing without youYou are the only one for meMy other halfAll you need is loveYou own my heart“I don’t want anyone else to have your heart, kiss your lips, or be in your arms because that is my place.”Why are they problematic?How are they perceived?Do we even notice that they are harmful?  What is the undercurrent to these phrases?[17:43] Toxic/Problematic Mono beliefs and rituals:Becoming One (it should not be a melded one or becoming one, but instead a united two)  Eg. Unity candle (unity candle with two individual candles being blown out and lighting the unity candle), mixed sand, white wine/red wine, Concept of ownership in relationshipsJealousy means loveOne Soul MateNo Sex Before Marriage (It’s wrong)Sex is the glue that holds a relationship togetherYou should not have close guy friends (that’s dangerous)One person should meet all your needs[31:28] Problematic Songs:How Do I Live Without You?  -LeAnn RimesI Have Nothing  - Whitney HoustonSomeone You Loved   - Lewis CapaldiYou Are The Reason  - Calum ScottWhen a Man Loves a Woman  - Michael BoltonSomeday My Prince Will Come  - Snow White[45:30] Mononormative Myths from Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships Romantic Love Is the Only Foundation for an Enduring RelationshipYou Need to Find a Soul MateThey Lived Happily Ever AfterDesiring Someone Else Is a Form of InfidelityMonogamy Is Natural, Evolutionarily Determined, Optimal, or Divinely OrdainedThere is a Right Way to Be Sexual[01:08:12] Myths About Sluts from The Ethical SlutLong-term Monogamous...
Let's Talk About Sexual Shame
03-08-2022
Let's Talk About Sexual Shame
Episode4: Let's Talk About Sexual Shame Explicit What is Sexual Shame?“Sexual shame refers to the feeling of profound responsibility and deep remorse associated with participation in and/or thoughts and fantasies about sexual activity.”  - Dr. Kelifern Pomeranz, Psy.D., CST (Clinical Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, Coach, and Relationship Expert)"A high level of sexual shame can place an individual at risk for sexual dysfunction, impaired relationships, and sexual acting out.” - Dr. Kelifern Pomeranz do people feel shame about?Body acceptancePleasureIntimacyDesireLustIntercourseMasturbationOrgasm ArousalFelling SexyWhere does it come from?ReligionSex only in marriageOnly for procreation in some casesPleasure is not a reason in itselfSinfulConversion TherapyFamilyReaction to child masturbationHow sex was talked about in the homeValues/moralsSociety/Cultureschool sex education (sex positive vs abstinence)Nursing in publicThe MediaIdealized versions of sexSlut shamingSocial media constantly blocking posts including words like sex, erotic, vulva….TraumaSexual abuseRape or attempted rapeWhy do sex and shame often go together?Sex historically has been connected to value and virtuePatriarchalVirginity/Purity is equated with valueMen as a conquestWomen have been taught that their sexuality should be hiddenSlut-shaming vs conquestModesty - women are often taught that they are responsible for the thoughts and actions of menSexual deviance was often considered a mental health disorderSexual identityGender identityReligious ControlIt’s the one thing that most people universally desire and therefore need to keep coming back for forgiveness or conformMake it sinful and shamefulMake pleasure selfish and sinfulHow does it affect us?I clearly remember that when I got married, my husband tried to call me “sexy” and I was so uncomfortable with that termI didn’t want to be seen as a sex objectIt aided to shut down an erotic side of our relationshipWe end up struggling to talk about sexIt’s badWe don’t enjoy itWe have an aversion to...
The Secret to Having an Empowered Relationship
27-07-2022
The Secret to Having an Empowered Relationship
Episode3: The Secret to Having an Empowered Relationship Explicit What makes a good relationship?Everybody says that communication is the key to having a good relationshipI disagreeI believe that you must establish other things before you can have good communicationSafety and ConnectionNo communication without SafetyNo safety without ConnectionNovelty keeps things fresh and excitingSafetyHolding spaceNo judgmentSex positivity can create safetyListeningBeing openNot taking things personallyTaking a breakConnectionWhat kinds of things make you feel connected?FoodActivitiesCuddlingSexDiscussionsSportsTravelingInterestsAre you familiar with Love Languages?Gary Chapman “The 5 Love Languages”  (refer to training materials)Physical TouchWords of AffirmationQuality TimeActs of ServiceGiftsAttachment stylesSecureAnxious - PreoccupiedDismissive AvoidantFearful Avoidant - DisorganizedHow does attachment style affect our connection and safety?Creating Safety and Connection starts with youConnection to ourselves  aka Self LoveInner Child WorkBoundary SettingNoveltyWhat is Novelty?How does it create Empowered Relationships?We are wired for NoveltyDopamineExcitementStagnantSex LifeSocial LifeBreaking Free Authentically: The Sex Positive Relationship Podcast website Subscribe to our Mailing List Leave a Review on Podchaser Join our Private Facebook Community Visit my Website at www.karinebedard.com Book a Complimentary Discovery Call
Sex Positivity and Why It's Important
20-07-2022
Sex Positivity and Why It's Important
Episode 2: Sex Positivity and Why It's Important Explicit What is Sex Positivity?Taking a look at an article written by Morgan Mandriota called “All About Sex Positivity” well written and has some great explanations and resources“My personal working definition of ‘sex positivity’ is operating around the topics of human sexuality, health, and pleasure with respect and without shame or stigma. This includes gender identity, orientation, sex education, nudity, relationship styles, body positivity, safer sex, reproductive equity, and much more,” says Goody Howard, a resident sex educator for sexual hygiene and body care company Royal.“Historically, it was common for sex to be viewed from a moralistic (based in sin) or medicalized (based in sickness or disease) framework. Through these lenses, otherwise natural and healthy sexual desires and behaviors are something to be repressed, controlled, or cured,” explains sociologist and certified sexologist Sarah Melancon, PhD with The Sex Toy Collective.How I viewed sex and sexualityWhy is Sex Positivity important?A sex positive approach realizes the potential life enhancing aspects of human sexuality, and presents sexuality as something that can be valued and celebrated, thereby giving people permission to consider their own sexuality. It is important to note that sex positivity is not sex promotion.Why should we become sex-positive?What is Sex Negativity?Sex negative examplesSex negativity is everywhere, and it’s easy to internalize. But it’s important to notice when it pops up so you can stop it in its tracks.How can you tell if you or someone you know is sex-negative? Obvious and subtle signs of sex negativity may include:using STIs or sexualities as punchlines (think: asking if someone’s rash is herpes or calling someone “gay” as a joke)assuming anything that’s not heteronormative is a sign of a mental health conditionbelieving anal sex is only for people who identify as gay“slut shaming” women (or shaming anyone engaging in consensual sexual behavior)victim-blaming for sexual assaultadvocating for punishment or violence toward sex workers or LGBTQIA+ peopleconsidering sex and sexuality to be “dirty,” “sinful,” or other negative adjectivesreferring to heterosexuality and being cisgender as “normal,” “natural,” or “regular”making negative comments about another person’s body, partner, style, or...
Bible School Graduate Turned Playboy Enthusiast
13-07-2022
Bible School Graduate Turned Playboy Enthusiast
Episode 1: Bible School Graduate Turned Playboy EnthusiastWelcome to the very first podcast of Breaking Free Authentically.  I’m so excited to finally be sharing with you all these things going on in my head.I thought it would be good to start at the beginning of this whole journey for me as the past ten years have been so life-changing.  I want you to understand why the title Breaking Free Authentically is so important to me.I always like to say that I’m a Bible School Graduate, Turned Playboy EnthusiastIntro: Let’s start at the beginningChildhood upbringingSexual child/ masturbationSexual shame at an early ageChurch pianist by 13Submission beautiful wordAll my friends were guys growing upBand, choir, musician, social groupMarriage was my biggest goalRelationship books and psychology were my fun readingCouldn’t wait to get married and finally have sex and be a good wifeWanted a better relationship than my parentsWanted to be a Stay at home momChose Musician over being a SurgeonThe BlissLoved my life in the churchWas very involvedWent to Bible School for Church musicKnew I would never be paid because I was a womanWas an accompanist for all the voice studiosWas in the Moody Symphonic Band (traveled to China)Married a “Good” Christian manThe day a piece of me diedBecame a momTaught moms groups and Bible studiesNever questioned my faithThought I was better than othersThe ShockMy husband shared his deconversionI had no idea this was comingMy biggest fear was, "What we would teach our daughters about sex now?"The DevastationDidn’t know where to turn3 legged tableQuestioned everything I believedStarted researchingThe worst of the worst - those SEX peopleHad no moralsCouldn’t love without ChristNo joyNo self-respectHad no hope…Playboy RadioFound my peopleLovingHonestAuthenticHonoured themselvesIntelligentDeepHappyFull of joyHad deep connections with each otherDiscovered Swing with Holli and MichaelRelationship GoalsThe TransformationStarted learning about sex positivityIf everything I had been taught about sexuality was not right what else wasn’tPodcasts, Playboy TV, pornCritical ThinkingThe Freedom to be AuthenticI started to see I was no different than anybody else and no betterAccabella’s storyStarted feeling safe enough to share things I’d never felt I could share beforeStarted to fantasizeStarted to embrace my sexuality and pleasure in a new wayShed the guilt and shameStarted to feel EmpoweredDiscovered my worth in a new wayTransformed my thinking and beliefsShifted my perspectiveBecame Authentic Learned to set boundaries without needing to hurt othersStarted honouring myself in a whole new wayRealized how...