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The Imperfect Pod

The Imperfect Pod

The Imperfect Pod is a podcast for discussing masculinity more intentionally and purposefully. Masculinity is in a weird place in society as men try to understand the difference between toxic and healthy masculinity. This podcast will engage with humans of all ages, races, genders and beliefs to share their ideas of masculinity to try and create a better understanding. What I want to leave my listeners with after every episode is that there isn't this one-size-fits all idea of masculinity, nor is their an easy solution to understanding your manhood in today's landscape. Topics of this show include parenting, fatherhood, relationships, porn addiction, sex, gender, toxic masculinity, growth, addiction and much more.

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75. Last Man Standing: My Reflections on the End of The Imperfect Pod74. Ending a Cycle of Dysfunction with Anthony Spark
What do you do when you come from a family of dysfunction? How do you learn to be a man when your father is a serial cheater, drug dealer, gambler and prisoner? How do you navigate that life? How do break that cycle of poverty to create a life of wealth? These are some of the topics and themes that we discuss on this week's episode. Other key themes of the episode include: His family history and the trauma surrounding it What is was like navigating the impact of his father's life Being a logical person rather than emotional How he responded to being called like his dad Ensuring the choices he made were different than his father's Creating a life of wealth so that his children can have a different life Why judgement of people in pain his wrong His close encounter with divorce Why counselling has been his saving grace What he's done to learn more about emotional wellbeing And much more About Anthony: Anthony Kenneth Spark is a successful Serial Entrepreneur, Money Coach, Philanthropist, Author, and Personal Development Specialist. At 18 years old, with a vision to change his family legacy and positively impact people in need, he was searching for a career . With a clear picture of the life he truly wanted, he began building a company of his own. That company has evolved into several industries and now does 7 figures of revenue involving an organization of over 250 people. We have as of November 2020 helped people pay off $3 million in Debt, earn over $3 million more per year in annual salary and save/invest 1.6 million. He had his first book, Phoenix Manifesto, published in 2018. Updated Audiobook to be released December 2020! Anthony is the cohost of ExtraOrdinary Excellence Podcast with over 21,000 downloads in its first year. He is the visionary and founder of Kickstrings - a social entrepreneurship project which raises funds and awareness for charities. You can connect with Anthony at his number 1-631-327-2241 (It's an iPhone too) or at his email Anthony@phoenixevolution.co. You can read more about his company https://phoenixevolution.co/ (Phoenix Evolution). As always, feel free to follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theimperfectpod/ (@theimperfectpod) or shoot me an email at luke@theimperfectpod.com
21-04-2021
58 mins
73. Overcoming Alcoholism with Neuroplasticity and a No BS Attitude with Dr. Robb Kelly
How can men heal from their alcoholism? What can they do to get out of their shame and guilt? Why are men more at risk of not getting help for this problem? These are questions that we discuss at length in this episode. Other key themes of the episode include: Where his own alcohol dependency started How DNA and genetics play into the issue of alcoholism Self-sabotage in the recover cycle Why anger and shame are two emotions that are harmful in healing Changing your neural pathways Why Macho culture is hurting men in the long run The difference between a Friday night drunk and a Friday night alcoholic Distinguishing the drinker from the alcoholic Why visualization is a powerful tool in recovery Alcoholism as a disease The power of routine in recovery His own story with family, drugs and alcohol University life and drinking and why it's unhealthy and much much more About Dr. Robb: Robb has overcome homelessness, alcohol dependency, trauma, and a whirlwind of events to be the "Gordon Ramsay" of the addiction treatment world. Before Robb succumbed to addiction and mental health issues, he played bass guitar at Abbey Studio with Queen, David Bowie, and Elton John. He is an accomplished musician, and the money he made helped him attend Oxford University to pursue a Ph.D. in Psychology. Robb's work ethic is defined by helping the addict step out of their disease and into a solution. We work with everyday people, professionals, and celebrities who want to reach sobriety and live in sustained recovery through evidence-based modalities and a genuine therapeutic alliance. https://robbkelly.com/ (Website). Email. As always, feel free to follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theimperfectpod/ (@theimperfectpod) or shoot me an email at luke@theimperfectpod.com
14-04-2021
1 hr
72. What to Expect When You're Expecting: A Father's Perspective with Geston Pierre
There are many resources out there for expecting women, but what about expecting men? What can they do throughout pregnancy to reflect, grow and serve their family? That’s exactly what we talked about on this episode! Key themes of the episode include: The difficulties of having a child during COVID Picking the hospital you want to have your child at The challenges that pregnancy can cause in relationships and how to treat your partner with respect Navigating your wife’s wants, needs and cravings during the pregnancy Being comfortable with role reversals and humbling yourself to serve How expecting men can navigate their own selves to become more positive and change their mindset Dealing with resentment and relationship hijacking with intentionality Continuing to connect with each other and not focusing on the baby The idea of the registry and why it might take away or threaten your ideas of masculinity The expectation of men to provide and the stress that can cause for men and why we need to broaden the definition of provision Finding valuable mentors and using relationships to become a better father Resources for expecting fathers to learn about their upcoming journey His excitement for being a girl dad The home environment he grew up in and why he desires to be different than his father How his relationship with his father has changed after knowing he was going to become a father Looking 20 years into the future, what does being a successful father look like? The biggest fear Geston has in his daughter’s first year on Earth Is there such a thing as being over-protective? About Geston: "GP" is an emerging leader, and speaker with a decade of combined leadership experience in the non-profit, and entertainment sectors. As a reality television competition champion, and multi-award nominated musician and recording artist, he has mastered the art and science of performing under pressure. He is passionate about helping people and organizations leverage their influence to make a lasting impact. As a pod-junkie, he serves as a podcast start-up consultant, and as a co-host to many podcasts. He ultimately aspires to inspire 1 billion people with his voice before he expires. You can find out more about him through his https://linktr.ee/GPThePodcastPlug (Linktree), by connecting with him on IG @https://www.instagram.com/gpthepodcastplug/?hl=en (gpthepodcastplug), or by connecting with him on https://www.linkedin.com/in/geston-pierre/ (LinkedIn). As always, feel free to follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theimperfectpod/ (@theimperfectpod) or shoot me an email at luke@theimperfectpod.com
07-04-2021
55 mins
71. Healing From Sexual Assault and How to Have Conversations About It with Tim Mousseau
Sexual violence in society has gone down 60% in the last several years but there's still more work to be done. Whether that's from more male allyship, discussing it on a wider scale, stopping it when you see it happen or just changing your own behavior, the fact that this reprehensible act is still so prevalent is awful. On this episode, Tim Mousseau and I discuss everything sexual assault. Key themes of the episode include: Finding his identity as a human and man after his sexual assault Why the way we talk about sexual assault in society is wrong Why sexual violence as a crime can be hard for people to understand How changing the way we talk about sexual violence will change our reaction to it Why statistics about sexual assault only get us so far in the conversation Understanding who should be handling sexual assault cases and how the system needs to do better by victims Looking at sensitivity training and why it’s important What laws are emerging that can help direct us to a better understanding of how sexual violence permeates different areas of society What we can do to start engaging in conversations both as bystanders and within our communities Why we need to look at the data and methodology of the research being done on these topics Tying in the #notallmen conversation based on the current situation with Sarah Everard Acknowledging the progress that we’ve made as a society on sexual assault when appropriate Looking at high profile cases and whether they hinder or help the discussion Innocent until proven guilty and the believe all women narratives Best practices to stop sexual violence or harm in real time without putting yourself or them in danger About Tim: Tim Mousseau is a survivor of sexual violence turned educator and advocate on this important topic. At the age of 22, Tim was faced with an incident of sexual assault. On top of this, Tim had to manage the stresses of workplace sexual harassment from his boss who used knowledge of Tim’s trauma to exert toxic control. Coming to terms with his experience, Tim recognized how it left him feeling powerless. He vowed no one else should ever feel the same way. For the last nine years, Tim has spoken with over 400 organizations including members of the United States Congress, top universities, and Fortune 500 companies across the world on the topics of sexual violence and harassment prevention. Tim’s research currently centers on how individuals set and maintain safety boundaries, along with a study on how to better engage men in sexual violence prevention work. Professionally, Tim received a Master’s in Organizational Leadership from Gonzaga and a Bachelor’s in Communication from the University of New Mexico. You can find out more about Tim and his resources on https://www.timmousseau.com/ (his website). As always, feel free to follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theimperfectpod/ (@theimperfectpod) or shoot me an email at luke@theimperfectpod.com
31-03-2021
1 hr 12 mins
70. Asian Masculinity, Spirituality and Masculine and Feminine Energies with Johnson Chong
On this episode, Johnson and I talk about the energetic and spirituality of masculinity from the East to the West, masculinity within the LGBTQ+ community and Asian masculinity. Disclaimer: This was recorded before the Atlanta Georgia mass shooting. Some themes might tie in but that was not included in the context. Key themes of the episode: Why there shouldn't be judgement on what is masculine vs feminine How masculine and feminine energies shift from Eastern to Western societies Religious trends of masculinity (dharma and ying and yang vs more rigid definitions) The importance of exploring humanness... not just man and woman What it's like to be a gay man and exploring masculinity The intersectionality of Asian masculinity and LGTBQ masculinity Looking at your childhood to understand your masculinity How Asians take a softer approach to masculinity while the American way is more competitive About Zach: Johnson Chong is the best-selling and award-winning author of Sage Sapien: From Karma to Dharma. He was the founder of Sagehouse in Singapore, a studio for yoga, Pilates, meditation and spiritual workshops and coaching. He is a native New Yorker, and has lived on 3 continents, currently based in Sydney, Australia. He specializes in helping people break free of their mental, emotional and spiritual roadblocks so they can live more aligned to their inner peace and joy versus their fears. Having worked with corporate professionals in various fields, he has a strong interest in working with members of the LGBTQ+ community and other marginalized populations. He has also spoken and led workshops at companies like Unilever, Facebook, Nike, UBS, UOB and various other organizations. Johnson is known as a bridge between ancient wisdom and direct modern application. In his dynamic coaching style, he integrates the practical and most useful parts of yogic wisdom, meditation, somatic movement, energy medicine and shamanic journeying to help his clients breakthrough daily self-criticism and emotional overwhelm. The unique experiences that Johnson curates offer a profoundly healing self-discovery experience, followed by very practical and actionable steps to create the most powerful breakthroughs. As a certified InnerGuidanceTM coach, a Four Winds Energy Medicine Health Coach, and Reiki Master in conjunction with his background as an advanced E-RYT 500 Hr Yoga Teacher Trainer, and PMA Pilates Teacher Trainer, he has an expansive knowledge on the inner workings of human psychology and how it gets trapped in the physical and mental bodies. Johnson is the host of the Truth Wisdom Freedom Conversations podcast on Apple, Google and Spotify where he talks about holistic wellbeing with various conscious leaders in their field, and he also runs transformational retreats at www.exodusretreats.com. You can connect with him on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/johnsonchong_sagesapien/ (@johnsonchong_sagesapien), on https://johnsonchong.com/ (his website), or his https://www.facebook.com/johnsonchongsagesapien?ref=bookmarks (Facebook). As always, feel free to follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theimperfectpod/ (@theimperfectpod) or shoot me an email at luke@theimperfectpod.com
24-03-2021
53 mins
69. It's Not #NotAllMen Until It's #NoMen: My Response to the Sarah Everard CaseJust the TIP | What's the deal with men and legacy?68. Hiking Across America For Mental Health and Building Legacy with Zach SmithJust the TIP | There's No Such Thing As Unhealthy Emotion67. Prison, Strength and Giving Men Permission to Feel with Eldra Jackson
Eldra Jackson was serving life in New Folsom prison and in and out of the prison system for almost 30 years. This is his journey of rehabilitation, extreme ownership, self work and intense growth. Key themes of the episode: The desire to be respected and feared in prison How he had an image of strength as a mask to fear The choices and impact that solitary confinement had on his life Why men need permission to feel and explore themselves The importance of rites of passage and rituals The origin story of Inside Circle Releasing negative energy as a source of healing How men can access their deeper truths and why it takes strength What the parole process looks like when getting release from prison What he's doing to ensure he doesn't pass down his trauma to the next generation This was an amazing episode and I'm so thankful to Eldra for speaking with me. Again, I am willing to pay for 10 people to watch the documentary by The Inside Circle called "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iddt4sVZTvI&ab_channel=YouTubeMovies (The Work)". You can find it on YouTube, Amazon Prime and I believe a few other options. It only costs $5 to rent but it will provide so much more depth as to the context and importance of the work that Eldra went through and facilitated in prison. Make sure to https://www.instagram.com/inside__circle/ (follow them on Instagram). About Eldra: Eldra is a writer and sought after public speaker on the topics of at-risk youth advocacy, effective criminal justice rehabilitation and turning around ‘toxic’ masculinity, Eldra brings clarity of purpose, mission focus, and inspiration to his role at Inside Circle. He was an inmate at New Folsom Prison when he found Inside Circle and began the inner personal journey that eventually led to his release in 2014 and his current leadership role. A living example of successful rehabilitation and re-entry, Eldra has dedicated his free time on the outside to serving at-risk youth, and acting as a facilitator, trainer, and mentor.  As always, feel free to follow me on Instagram @theimperfectpod or shoot me an email at luke@theimperfectpod.com
03-03-2021
57 mins
Just the TIP | Why Women Can't Just Leave Their Abusers66. Reducing Violence in the Home with Sabrina OssoJust the TIP | Dealing with Body Image Issues and the Worth Wound65. Bringing Compassion and Grace to Your Sex and Dating Life with Gretchen ShanksJust the TIP | Why Dating Can Be Hard For Young Men64. No More Mister Nice Guy: Dating Advice For Young Men with Dr. Michael Pariser
We've heard the saying before: "Nice guys finish last". Is it true? Not if you look at it through a victim mentality. However, there are ways to improve your relationships through assertiveness, not aggression. Through body language. Through understanding your relationship with your parents. And through understanding the idea of interest, intimacy and commitment. These are all things that we discuss on today's episode! About the Guest: Dr. Michael Pariser is a psychologist, author, and transformation agent. After training with Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy, he started working a lot with men who identify as compliant and people-pleasing. He’s also the author of https://www.amazon.ca/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy-ebook/dp/B08C813MTZ (No More Mr. Nice Guy: The Hero’s Journey). It serves as a guide to the changes that Nice Guys need to make to become the men they’ve always wanted to be. Michael likes to think of it as a road map to healthy, integrated masculinity. If you would like to find out more about today’s guest, you can go to his website, drparisertherapy.com and if you go to the "For Men" section, that's where you can find out more about his workshops. If you liked the episode, make sure to press subscribe, follow, leave a review and message me on Instagram @theimperfectpod or email me at Luke@theimperfectpod.com and join my https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (Facebook group). I always always want to hear from my listeners and continue the conversation!
10-02-2021
1 hr 1 min
Just the TIP | How Politics Discusses Masculinity63. For the Love of Men: Conversations About Masculinity with Liz Plank
Hello everyone! This episode is really special to me. I've wanted to speak with Liz ever since I read her book "https://www.amazon.com/Love-Men-Toxic-Mindful-Masculinity/dp/1250757207/ref=sr_1_1?crid=37JQ7XIZ8SF1O&dchild=1&keywords=liz+plank+for+the+love+of+men&qid=1612314824&sprefix=liz+plakn%2Caps%2C157&sr=8-1#customerReviews (For the Love of Men: From Toxic to a More Mindful Masculinity)" back in the summer of 2020. It's such an empathetic approach to the conversation that I absolutely loved the book and have mentioned it numerous times on the show. Well, with her paperback coming out this week (February 2nd so much sure to go check it out) it was the perfect timing to make it happen! We cover a ton of topics including why she wrote the book, why it's important for men to listen to women on the topic of masculinity, what are Men's Rights groups, what it was like to talk about masculinity in the Trump era, emotional intelligence and much more. Please please please go check out her book. I will also be doing a giveaway of some of her books on Instagram once they get here so much sure to follow me there @theimperfectpod. If you liked the episode, make sure to press subscribe, follow, leave a review and message me on Instagram @theimperfectpod or email me at Luke@theimperfectpod.com and join my https://www.facebook.com/groups/229891395146974 (Facebook group). I always always want to hear from my listeners and continue the conversation! More about Liz: Liz is an award-winning journalist, author and the executive producer and host of several critically acclaimed digital series at Vox Media and NBC News. She’s the CEO of Liz Plank Productions and is a columnist for MSNBC and has been listed as one of Forbes’ 30 Under 30, Mediaite’s Most Influential in News Media, and Marie Claire’s Most Powerful Women, and was named one of the World’s Most Influential People in Gender Policy by Apolitical. She’s built a loyal following on numerous social media platforms, but her proudest accomplishment by far remains being blocked by the 45th president of the United States. Liz regularly appears on national and international television programs to provide a perspective on politics, gender issues, and reproductive rights, including The Today Show, The Daily Show, MSNBC, CNN, ABC News, Fusion, Al-Jazeera America and BBC World. Through her activism and creative approach to journalism, Liz has made it her mission to elevate the voices of those who are often not heard. Before becoming a journalist, Liz worked as a researcher and behavioral science consultant at the London School of Economics, from which she holds a master's degree in policy with an emphasis in global gender politics. You can follow Liz on https://twitter.com/feministabulous?s=20 (Twitter) and https://www.instagram.com/feministabulous/ (Instagram) @feministabulous, subscribe to her https://linktr.ee/lizplank (Newsletter), watch her on YouTube or check out more of her work on her http://www.elizabethplank.com/ (website)!
03-02-2021
1 hr 15 mins
Just the TIP | Being a Single Father: The Challenges and Opportunities