Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Headgum & Nicole Byer

Dating can be a hot mess, from getting ghosted by your crush to realizing you've been catfished by a Tinder match. Enter Why Won't You Date Me? Nicole Byer's multi-award-winning podcast where she dives into all things love, dating, and romance. Join Nicole, the perpetual singleton, as she welcomes comedians, friends, and even ex-flings to share their wildest dating stories and relationship insights. Nothing is off-limits. New episodes every Friday!

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Our Editor's Take

With a theme song catchy enough to get stuck in anyone's head, the Why Won't You Date Me? podcast is fun and fabulous.

Comedian and actor Nicole Byer hosts this hilarious podcast series. The cohost of Best Friends with Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamataand Newcomers Podcast with Lauren Lapkus, Nicole is a podcast pro. She also has been nominated for Primetime Emmy Awards as the host of Netflix's Nailed It! What can't this girl do? Well, she can't find a boyfriend, and this podcast is all about finding out why.

Sassy and flippant, Nicole loves to talk about everyone else's love life. Along the way, she'll also discover truths about her own. This self-proclaimed "nosiest b*tch around" digs into every story. Whether it's crazy awkward dates, elaborate sexual escapades, or deep emotional issues, Nicole is here for it.

Each week, Nicole brings in a special guest to chat about anything and everything. Past guests include Keke Palmer, Penn Badgley, and Nikki Glaser. Some of these Why Won't You Date Me? conversations are wild. Wherever the tangents go, they're delivered in true, quirky Nicole Byer style. These raw conversations may have fans laughing, and sometimes cringing, too. Every episode is a surprise, from almost unbelievable admissions to practical dating advice.

At the end of each episode, Nicole reads a cringeworthy attempt to flirt with her sent in by a listener. Ooooh baby, as she would say, no one will want to miss these jokes. Listeners can listen each week to the Why Won't You Date Me? podcast to hear Nicole and her special guest gossip about their love lives. This might be the week Nicole finally solves the mystery of why such a classy lady is still single.

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Why Won't You Date Me? Here's a Little Tease.

Why Won't You Date Me? Here's a Little Tease.

Why is Nicole so single? She's cute, funny, has a fat ass, and loves giving blow jobs. This podcast is a quest to find the answer. Join Nicole and her guests - comedians. relationships experts, and ex-lovers, as they boil it down why dating is so hard. Subscribe to Why Won't You Date Me on your favorite podcast app, and watch full length video episodes on YouTube.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episodes

Validate Bisexuality (w/ Sherry Cola)

Validate Bisexuality (w/ Sherry Cola)

Comedian Sherry Cola (Joy Ride, Turning Red) shares her journey of coming out as bisexual, how she met her girlfriend, navigating dating in the queer community, and monetizing a breastmilk kink.WATCH this episode on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/RH4fK4ksCNsWrite to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message," and Nicole may read it in a future episode.Sponsors:Uncommon Goods: To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/dateme.Betterhelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self.Follow Nicole Byer: Website: nicolebyerwastaken.comInstagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We Met Playing Call of Duty (w/ Sarah Silverman)

We Met Playing Call of Duty (w/ Sarah Silverman)

Comedian Sarah Silverman sits down with Nicole to discuss meeting her boyfriend over Call of Duty, the challenges of dating as a female comic, and how many health studies are skewed against women. Plus, Nicole shares her experience getting hit on at Comic-Con.See Sarah Silverman live on her POST MORTEM tour at sarahsilverman.com.WATCH this episode on YouTube at: youtu.be/eOdSuFrUl4sWrite to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message," and Nicole may read it in a future episode.Sponsors:Betterhelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self.Follow Nicole Byer: Website: nicolebyerwastaken.comInstagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Men Who Lie About Their Height (w/ Lauren Lapkus)

Men Who Lie About Their Height (w/ Lauren Lapkus)

We're back - and now in video form! Comedian and actress Lauren Lapkus (Newcomers podcast) joins Nicole to discuss why men lie about their heights, motherhood, and her recent trip to Victoria's Secret. Plus, they play a special game of F*ck, Marry, Kill: Newcomers Movies Edition.Watch this episode! Check it out on our new YouTube channel at youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast.Write to Nicole! Send your dirty messages to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com with the subject line "Dirty Message," and Nicole may read it on a future episode.Sponsors:Lume: Control Body Odor anywhere with @lumedeodorant and get 15% off with promo code DATEME at LumeDeodorant.com. #lumepodBetterhelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DATEME and get on your way to being your best self.Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fmSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BEST OF: How to Hack Into Your Partner's Phone (w/ Keke Palmer)

BEST OF: How to Hack Into Your Partner's Phone (w/ Keke Palmer)

In this best of episode, Emmy-award winning actress Keke Palmer (Nope, Lightyear) shares with Nicole how she got her first kiss from MySpace, why she avoids posting relationships on social media, and how she's learning to trust again after her boyfriend slept with her best friend. Plus, is it ever okay to hack into your partner's phone? Keke teaches, in great detail, exactly how to do it. We're starting a YouTube channel! Subscribe at youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast for upcoming full length video podcast episodes. We'll be back next week with a brand new episode! Crazy dating story? Looking for advice? Let Nicole and her guest help you out. Submit your stories, questions, or dirty pick-up lines to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.Netflix's The Ultimatum is NOW CASTING long-term couples in committed relationships for an all-new season! Go to theultimatumcasting.com to learn more and apply.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BEST OF: Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)

BEST OF: Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)

While we're on hiatus, we're bringing you the best of the podcast – completely ad-free! In this episode, Nicole’s close friend Francesca Amber (host of Law of Attraction Changed my Life) opens up about the challenges of being a single mother to twins, the rising trend of 'co-parenting', and how she uses the Law of Attraction to manifest her dream partner. Meanwhile, Nicole counts down the days until her dick appointment.Originally aired on July 16, 2021.We’re launching a YouTube channel! Subscribe now for upcoming full-length video podcast episodes.We're looking for more dirty message submissions! Submit a dirty message to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.Follow Nicole Byer:X: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BEST OF: Top or Bottom? (w/ Jon Gabrus, Nick Wiger, and Mike Mitchell)

BEST OF: Top or Bottom? (w/ Jon Gabrus, Nick Wiger, and Mike Mitchell)

In this iconic episode, Gabrus (High & Mighty), Nick Wiger and Mike Mitchell (Doughboys) join Nicole fresh off a power-hour to discuss how they would want to die, their favorite sex positions, and if they're into ass play. They also answer audience questions about post-sex snacks, favorite porn genres, and their craziest sex stories. Plus, Nicole helps officiate a live marriage proposal.We now have a YouTube! Subscribe here for upcoming full length video podcast episodes.Listen to the High & Mighty Power-Hour they recorded here:https://headgum.com/high-and-mighty/212-chicago-power-hour-w-nick-wiger-mike-mitchell-and-nicole-byerThis was recorded at Thalia Hall for Headgum Live in Chicago.Follow Nicole Byer:Tour Dates: nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdatesTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BEST OF: Proposal Gone Wrong (w/ Paul Scheer)

BEST OF: Proposal Gone Wrong (w/ Paul Scheer)

While we're on hiatus, we're revisiting one of Nicole's favorite episodes! Comedian and actor Paul Scheer (The League, Black Monday) joins Nicole to chat about how his proposal to June Diane Raphael went terribly wrong, how June's wedding ring was stolen from her finger, and why you should never propose in a hot air balloon. June sits nearby, fact-checking Paul's stories.Originally aired 05/21/2021.California! New York! Come see Nicole live in October. Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastaken.Watch full video episodes of the podcast on our upcoming YouTube channel! Subscribe to Why Won't You Date Me on YouTube.Follow Nicole Byer:Instagram: @nicolebyerX: @nicolebyerSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BEST OF: Same Guy Club (w/ Skyler Hurt)

BEST OF: Same Guy Club (w/ Skyler Hurt)

We’re bringing you the best of Why Won’t You Date Me?—completely ad-free! In this episode, Nicole is joined by Skyler, who she met on Tinder. Things got awkward quickly when they realized they dated the same man. Nicole asks Skyler why she swiped right, why they kept dating despite Nicole's smoking, and whether she would’ve still gone out with her if she didn’t know about her work. And finally, Skyler gives Nicole the cold, hard truth about why they stopped dating. Spoiler alert: things get really awkward.You can check out Skyler's Austin account at @austinunscripted.Originally aired 02/14/2019.Follow Nicole Byer:See Nicole live at Nicolebyerwastaken.com.X: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerFacebook: www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BEST OF: Getting Paid for Sex (w/ Meatball and Big Dipper)

BEST OF: Getting Paid for Sex (w/ Meatball and Big Dipper)

As we continue our hiatus, we're bringing back one of Nicole's all-time favorite episodes! And oh boy, buckle up, because this one is WILD. Nicole is joined by her pals, drag queen Meatball and rapper Big Dipper. They share a wild hookup story involving a dirty diaper, talk about how they like to be choked in bed, and swap stories about the times they were paid for sex. By the end, Nicole is convinced to hire a male escort for her next birthday.Originally aired 05/25/2018.For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8EpuSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

BEST OF: Booty Call Horror Story (w/ Jameela Jamil)

BEST OF: Booty Call Horror Story (w/ Jameela Jamil)

Actress Jameela Jamil (The Good Place) joins Nicole to share her most horrifying booty call story. They dive into the wild pressure women face to be sexy, why so many play it small for men, and how the relentless pursuit of the 'bad boy' often leads to heartbreak—and HPV.Originally aired 09/06/2018.Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A lil update from Nicole

A lil update from Nicole

We’re taking a short hiatus, but don’t worry—we’ll be back soon with brand new episodes, including more video podcasts! In the meantime, I’m re-releasing some of my all-time favorite episodes of the podcast, completely ad-free.Stay tuned for updates and all the latest news by following me on Instagram @nicolebyer. We can’t wait to share what’s coming up next with you! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dating Michael Jordan, Larry David, and a $6K Dating App Fail (w/ Garcelle Beauvais)

Dating Michael Jordan, Larry David, and a $6K Dating App Fail (w/ Garcelle Beauvais)

Actress Garcelle Beauvais (The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills) joins Nicole to discuss dating the likes of Michael Jordan, Larry David, and Eddie Murphy. She shares her experience working at a Playboy club under a fake ID, and the time she accidentally spent $6,000 on a dating app, without landing a single date. Nicole and Garcelle fantasize about a world with Yelp-style reviews for dating. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dating Scraps (w/ Riki Lindhome)

Dating Scraps (w/ Riki Lindhome)

Comedian Riki Lindhome (Garfunkel and Oates, AfrAId) joins Nicole to discuss her harrowing fertility journey, dating someone new just two weeks before her baby was due, and what it means to "soft-partner" or date a "scrap." Meanwhile, a man tries to move into Nicole's house, leading her to seek relationship advice from WikiHow.Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Orgasmic Meditation (w/ Chloe Fineman)

Orgasmic Meditation (w/ Chloe Fineman)

Comedian and actress Chloe Fineman (SNL) joins Nicole to discuss orgasmic meditation and the strange men behind the practice. She shares stories of attending a “slutty” theater school where her friends ended up in a crazy gangbang, dating a 700-pound man who used meth to lose weight, and dating another guy with "school shooter vibes." Chloe also talks about the most ridiculous arguments that have led to her breakups and offers advice on the best dating app. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When Your Dad’s a Movie Icon (w/ Sophia Stallone)

When Your Dad’s a Movie Icon (w/ Sophia Stallone)

Sophia Stallone (The Family Stallone) shares what it's like to date when your dad is Sylvester Stallone. Sophia recounts cringey dates where the guy was more interested in meeting Rocky than getting to know her, the challenges of navigating her dad’s overprotective nature, and how she’s worked to overcome the anxieties that come with dating in the spotlight. Nicole and Sophia also reminisce about being dummies on the set of Are You Smarter Than a Celebrity. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sex Goals (w/ Akeem Woods)

Sex Goals (w/ Akeem Woods)

Comedian and "ho-fessional" Akeem Woods joins Nicole to share his crazy sexcapades. He tells the story about his first Pride parade where he hooked up with a dozen guys in a single day, his experiences having sex with pornstars, accidentally attending an orgy, and having sex with a stranger in a Staples bathroom. He looks back on the time he was still in the closet and made a MySpace account for his fake girlfriend. Nicole gets fisted. Write to Nicole! Submit your dirty pick-up lines, dating stories, or questions to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Don't Break Up Like This! (w/ Ryan Beck)

Don't Break Up Like This! (w/ Ryan Beck)

Comedian Ryan Beck (Girl Code) joins Nicole to discuss the worst places to be broken up with and debate when it’s acceptable to end a relationship over text. Nicole shares her experiences with threesome requests at meet & greets and the time she and her friend hooked up with long-lost brothers on a set of bunk beds. Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Modelling on OnlyFans (w/ Luenell)

Modelling on OnlyFans (w/ Luenell)

Comedian Luenell (Borat, Hacks) joins Nicole to discuss the decision that led her to start an OnlyFans, dating a man who slid into her DMs, and her experience robbing $50,000 from a bank. Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Forget About the Dating "Icks" (w/ Boman Martinez-Reid)

Forget About the Dating "Icks" (w/ Boman Martinez-Reid)

Actor/TikToker Boman Martinez-Reid (@Bomanizer) joins Nicole to discuss the pitfalls of launching your relationship on social media, witnessing his ex compete on a TV dating show and become a fan favorite, and his advice on why we should all forget about the "icks" when dating. Meanwhile, Nicole has started bargaining with her house spiders.Got a dirty message for Nicole? Write it to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it read on-air.Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Background Check Your Dates (w/ Lala Kent)

Background Check Your Dates (w/ Lala Kent)

Lala Kent (Vanderpump Rules) joins Nicole to reveal why she chose a sperm donor for her pregnancy and explain the tier system of sperm options. She shares the reasons she background checks all her dates and spills some of the craziest discoveries she's made. Plus, Lala opens up about her experience co-parenting her daughter and dating while pregnant. Follow Nicole Byer:Twitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.