Ep. 85 - Living For Our Future Self: How to Unlock Our Past and Become Who We Want to Be with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

Dr. Benjamin Hardy, PhD joins us for an enlightening conversation about our relationship with the past, present, and future. Together, we explore the concept of 'living from the future' versus 'living in the future', discussing the differences and why it's crucial to clarity and exponential growth. Hardy also shares his personal story of taking a bold risk to bet on himself and his new career, providing an inspirational example of 10x growth and how you can do it, too.

Ben joins Ruben to unpack the power of pursuing 'impossible' goals, and how these audacious ambitions can transform your life. We take a deep look into the differences between mere wishing and purposeful action, as well as how to keep yourself accountable to your dreams. Hardy shares powerful insights on reframing past experiences, surviving trauma, and using these instances as fuel for creating the future you want.

Finally, don't miss our discussion on psychological flexibility and how this vital trait can empower us to better navigate between past, present, and future. Dr. Hardy explains the paradox of choice and its potential to lead to avoidance or analysis paralysis, stressing the importance of mastering our past and future so that our future can dictate our present. Together, we uncover strategies to increase our psychological flexibility and, ultimately, unmask our future selves. Join us on this journey of self-discovery and growth!

How does Ben live through love? “I never let a goal to be accomplished become more important than a person to be loved.” - Benjamin Hardy

"Get connected to your future self, the person you want to be, and let your future be the filter for every choice you make right now.” - Benjamin Hardy

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In this episode, you will learn…

• Live From the Future: This podcast highlights the importance of operating from the future, not just living in it. Dr. Hardy explains that we need to connect with our future selves and let this image guide our current decisions and actions. This means setting clear goals for the future, and letting these objectives determine what we say yes or no to in the present.
• Pursue Impossible Goals: The episode emphasizes the transformative power of pursuing seemingly impossible goals. Moving from wishing to taking action can lead to significant personal growth and development. This involves being honest with ourselves, confronting our fears, and taking risks.
• Reframe the Past: Dr. Hardy underscores the significance of reframing past experiences, especially traumatic ones. While we can't change the past, we can change how we perceive it and define it.
• Enhance Psychological Flexibility: The podcast also discusses the concept of psychological flexibility, which can help us navigate between our past, present, and future. By mastering our past and future, we can allow our future to dictate our present.

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“Recognize that you can learn from your past. You're not defined by it, but also it takes huge flexibility to actually reframe. If you're constantly reframing your relationship to your past, present, and future, then you're going to be very flexible in the present.” - Benjamin Hardy

About the guest: Dr. Benjamin Hardy is an organizational psychologist and is one of the world’s leading experts on the psychology of entrepreneurial leadership and exponential growth. His PhD research focused on entrepreneurial courage and transformational leadership.

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