Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Michelle Kenney, M. Ed

Have you tried Gentle Parenting? Are you a fan of Attachment but just can’t put it all together? Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits?


Welcome to the Peace and Parenting Podcast with Michelle Kenney, M. Ed. Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are completely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions.


Twice a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through her interviews with experts and Q&A sessions with struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.

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Episodes

Why The Parenting Advice You're Getting Isn’t Working (And How to Fix It)
2d ago
Why The Parenting Advice You're Getting Isn’t Working (And How to Fix It)
Have you ever felt like the parenting advice you get (from me and any other parenting experts) doesn’t fit your family? Imagine a world where parenting tips are tailored just for you and your child. How can we bridge the gap between general advice and our unique parenting challenges?In today’s episode, we tackle the giant world of parenting advice. We'll discuss what strategies work, what doesn't, and why. I'll provide insights on how to take general parenting frameworks and tailor them to suit your unique family dynamics. We'll explore why certain methods may require adjustments and how understanding your child’s temperament can make a significant difference. Whether you’re dealing with a defiant teenager or a toddler who uses a pacifier, remember that, above all, it’s about prioritizing connection over correction; every family is unique.In This EpisodeUnderstanding general parenting adviceAdapting tips to fit your childBuilding a strong parent-child relationshipHandling parenting challenges with empathyEmbracing imperfection in parenting🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Case Study: I Hated Being Around My Kids
4d ago
Case Study: I Hated Being Around My Kids
Have you ever felt at your wit's end, not wanting to spend another minute in the presence of your kids? Today, I have a heartwarming conversation with Rachel, a mother who once felt overwhelmed and disconnected from her two young daughters. Rachel bravely shares her initial struggles with her eldest child, who exhibited extreme emotions and behaviors that left Rachel feeling helpless and frustrated. Rachel’s journey of growth and understanding demonstrates that with the right tools and support, every parent can move from mere survival to thriving with their children.In This EpisodeRachel's initial challenges with emotional shut-downValidating your children’s feelings over dismissing themThe impact of parenting support on family lifeThe softer, more connected child after changeHow the sibling relationship transformed with a new approachChallenges and successes in ongoing cooperative parenting🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Why Your Kids Are Lying to You and How You Should Respond
20-06-2024
Why Your Kids Are Lying to You and How You Should Respond
Have you ever wondered why your child may tell lies even when they know they will likely get caught? Just imagine a world where lying isn't seen as a child's desperate escape from trouble but as a way to seek deeper understanding. Let's take some time to explore how we can turn those little lies into opportunities for building strong connections. Today, I want to share with you the emotional and psychological reasons that lead children to bend the truth and emphasize the importance of understanding and empathy. It's important to remember that behind every lie is a child seeking connection and acceptance.In This EpisodeWhy do kids lie to avoid troubleThe impact of disappointment and shameDifferentiating between harmless and harmful liesStrategies to reduce lying without punishmentsEncouraging honesty through curiosity and empathy🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Case Study: From Solo to Sibling, Adjusting to Life with Two Kids
11-06-2024
Case Study: From Solo to Sibling, Adjusting to Life with Two Kids
What happens when parenting dynamics take a sudden turn? Can connection truly transform challenging behaviors? Today, I sit with Taryn, one of our inspiring Peace and Parenting coaches, to recount her journey from traditional parenting to embracing connective parenting. After facing unexpected challenges with her second child, Taryn discovered the transformative power of hand-in-hand parenting. Her story beautifully illustrates how deeper connection and empathy not only reshape parent-child relationships but also rejuvenate the entire family dynamic.Taryn shares the complexities she faced when her seemingly 'easy-going' firstborn started showing regressive behaviors and aggression towards her younger sibling. Her light bulb moment led her to embrace new parenting tools, which turned around her family's struggles and cultivated deep bonds. From enduring sibling rivalry to teenagers who feel completely safe in their authentic selves, Taryn's story encapsulates the highs and lows of parental connection.In This EpisodeNavigating challenges with a second childRecognizing and fixing disconnection in parentingTransforming through connective parenting toolsBalancing sibling rivalry with empathy and playSustaining parenting connection through different stages🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
How Your Emotional Baggage Is Hurting Your Kids
06-06-2024
How Your Emotional Baggage Is Hurting Your Kids
What hidden stories from your past are impacting your parenting today? What if the secret to better parenting lies within us? Today, I explore the profound idea of self-regulation and the underlying narratives that influence how we engage with our children.I open up about a personal session I had recently with a client who is grappling with the complexities of raising a child with ADHD and ODD. Throughout this experience, we uncover how past grievances and unresolved pain can subtly hinder our parenting endeavors. Join me as we explore practical approaches to clearing these mental and emotional obstacles and find empowerment to evolve into a more attentive, compassionate, and connected parent.In this EpisodeUncovering hidden stories affecting parenting behaviorsThe importance of self-regulation in parentingThe impact of unresolved emotions on parent-child connectionStrategies for recognizing and addressing resentmentsPractical tools for clearing mental blockages🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Case Study: How Dads Can Make a Difference in Parenting with Billy Vsco
04-06-2024
Case Study: How Dads Can Make a Difference in Parenting with Billy Vsco
What if open communication and respect could revolutionize your relationship with your teenager? Today, we're thrilled to bring you a captivating conversation with the one and only Billy Vsco. Billy, who found his way into the world of parenting through his viral TikTok videos and football coaching, has garnered a substantial following. He's now a guiding light for parents, advocating for stronger relationships and better communication with their children.In this episode, we discuss essential topics like maintaining a strong parent-child relationship even beyond the age of 18, the importance of apologizing and taking responsibility, and the transformative power of open communication and respect. Billy shares insights from his journey, the challenges, and the joys of parenting.In this EpisodeThe impact of apologizing to our childrenTransitioning from a teen to an adult audienceThe role of empathy in parenting multiple childrenChallenges of dealing with criticism in parenting🔗 Check out Billy on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@billyvsco🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
What You Need to Do When Your Kids Make a Mistake
30-05-2024
What You Need to Do When Your Kids Make a Mistake
Ever wonder if letting your kids fail could actually be the best thing for them? Today, we're diving into the counterintuitive but transformative idea that failure is not only okay but necessary. Join me as I explore why allowing our children to stumble, make mistakes, and experience the natural consequences of their actions in a safe and supportive environment is a cornerstone of connected parenting.I’ll share practical ways to shift from overprotective habits to fostering independence and learn how to hold space for your children's emotions without rushing in to fix everything. This episode is a must-listen for parents ready to embrace a new approach that empowers their kids to grow into capable, confident individuals.In this EpisodeWhy letting children fail helps them growCreating a safe space for failureHow to avoid overprotection and emotional shieldingEmbracing failure for deeper learningUnderstanding failures in interpersonal relationshipsThe balance between intervention and natural consequences🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Encouraging Healthy Child Development with Dr. Joel Warsh
28-05-2024
Encouraging Healthy Child Development with Dr. Joel Warsh
Why is understanding a child’s developmental stage crucial for effective parenting? Today, I am thrilled to welcome Dr. Joel Warsh, an integrative pediatrician passionate about children's health and well-being. Dr. Warsh shares his frustration with children's over-medication and his journey towards integrative medicine, blending the best of Western and alternative practices. We delve into his new book, "Parenting at Your Child’s Pace," which focuses on de-stressing parents and promoting health from the earliest stages of childhood.Together, we’ll explore the societal pressures to create 'superhuman' children and the resulting parental stress. Dr. Warsh emphasizes the importance of balance, connection, and trusting our instincts as parents. He shares insights on managing common parenting worries, from growth charts to developmental milestones, reminding us that each child is unique and that most concerns are normal.In this EpisodeAn integrative pediatrician's approach to balanced parentingStress and its impact on parentingThe importance of developmental milestone understandingNavigating societal pressures on perfect parentingBalancing discipline: boundaries vs. permissivenessRethinking medication as a last resort🔗 Follow Dr. Joel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjoelgator/🔗 Get his book Parenting at Your Child's Pace: https://parentingatyourchildspace.com/🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Is Connection the Missing Link in Parenting Neurodivergent Kids?
23-05-2024
Is Connection the Missing Link in Parenting Neurodivergent Kids?
Is compliance really the goal in parenting neurodivergent kids? Have you ever wondered if there's a better way to connect with your neurodivergent child beyond the conventional methods of rewards and punishments? Today, I reflect on the profound impact of connection in parenting, especially for children with ADHD, autism, and other neurodivergent conditions.Many believe these kids need strict compliance through rewards and punishments due to their executive functioning challenges. But I challenge that notion. What if the secret to truly supporting our children lies in the strength of our connection with them? I've worked with wonderful families with neurodivergent kids, and I believe that traditional methods might not be the best approach and that connection can foster genuine growth and understanding.In this EpisodeConnection over compliance for neurodivergent kidsTraditional methods vs. connection-based parentingThe challenges with rewards and punishment systemsSuccess stories of connection-focused parenting🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Case Study: Turning Mom Rage into Connection Magic
21-05-2024
Case Study: Turning Mom Rage into Connection Magic
Today I sit down with Shelly Robinson, the inspiring founder of Raising Yourself. Shelly shares her transformative experience with reparenting herself and offers powerful insights into inner child work, conscious parenting, and breaking the cycle of punitive approaches.We delve into the concept of “mom rage” and explore the underlying fears and insecurities that often ignite our outbursts. Shelly’s candid storytelling, including a poignant moment with her young son, will strike a chord with many parents who grapple with similar challenges. This episode isn't just about enhancing your child’s behavior, but also about our own healing and creating a nurturing environment where both parent and child can flourish.In this EpisodeThe importance of connection over punishmentUsing play as a parenting toolAddressing “mom rage” with empathy and understandingHow to handle parental dysregulation effectivelyHow to collaborate with children to solve conflictsSelf-compassion in overcoming parenting challenges🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
What To Do When Our Child Says “I Hate You”
16-05-2024
What To Do When Our Child Says “I Hate You”
Have you ever been stung by your child's words? Have you felt the sting of "I hate you" or "shut up" from those you love most? It's a moment that cuts deep, triggering a whirlwind of emotions and questions about our parenting. But what if I told you it's not about us?Today, I explore the reasons behind hurtful moments, how children react, and how we can respond with grace and empathy. I’ll share some practical tips on supporting our children's emotions without disregarding our own and why punishment is not the solution. It's all about understanding, connection, and allowing our children to express their feelings without judgment. Ultimately, it's not just about how they communicate with us but how we choose to respond that truly makes a difference.In this EpisodeUnderstanding children's emotional outburstsHow to shift focus from personal to empathetic responsesThe importance of holding space for children's feelingsExploring the impact of punishment on communicationRecognizing the role of your environment in behaviorEmbracing grace and compassion in parenting🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Case Study: How Being Playful Helped with My Strong-Willed Son
14-05-2024
Case Study: How Being Playful Helped with My Strong-Willed Son
Today, I’m joined by guest Mariah, one of our vibrant Peace of Parenting community members. Mariah shares her journey of discovering a new approach to parenting that prioritizes understanding over obedience. From navigating challenges with her strong-willed son to embracing playful corrections, Mariah offers insights that resonate with every parent striving for deeper connections with their children.We delve into the layers of traditional disciplinary methods, shedding light on the pitfalls of shame and the power of empathy. This episode is packed with practical insights and actionable strategies that you can immediately apply to nurture stronger bonds with your children.In this Episode:How playfulness fosters deeper parent-child connectionsShifting from correction to empathy-based disciplineChallenges with strong-willed children and playful solutionsThe importance of avoiding shame in parentingPrioritizing understanding over blind obedienceCultivating trust, respect, and resilience in children🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Case Study: The Science Behind Attachment Parenting with Eli Harwood
07-05-2024
Case Study: The Science Behind Attachment Parenting with Eli Harwood
How can parents cultivate a healthy balance between responsiveness and setting boundaries? Today, I’m joined by Eli Harwood from Attachment Nerd. Eli's expertise in attachment theory sheds light on the complexities of parenting in today's world. Eli and I delve into the essence of secure attachment, exploring its profound impact on children and parents alike.Today, we’ll explore the various attachment styles, from avoidant to resistant and even disorganized, and dissect how our childhood experiences influence our parenting styles. Eli will share her four strategies for transforming your parenting journey: show up, listen up, light up, and make up.In this Episode:Attachment parenting styles and their impactWhat is secure attachment: trust, regulation, and supportParenting challenges: emotions, boundaries, and repairRecognizing and addressing inherited attachment patternsStrategies: Show up, listen, light up, make upAim for 30% synchronicity in interactionsImportance of ongoing research and learning🔗 Find out more about Eli and Attachment Nerd here: https://attachmentnerd.com/🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
How I Nearly Lost My Relationship with My Oldest - Don’t Make the Same Mistake
02-05-2024
How I Nearly Lost My Relationship with My Oldest - Don’t Make the Same Mistake
Have you ever felt like you were losing the bond with your child? Or struggle to navigate their strong will without resorting to traditional methods of discipline. Today, I want to share my personal experiences with my daughter Esme, whose unwavering spirit challenged me to rethink my approach to parenting.Parenting my daughter has been a challenging journey. Her strong will and refusal to conform led to moments of frustration and doubt. However, I have witnessed a remarkable transformation in my relationship with Esme by adopting connection-based parenting. By shifting my focus to nurturing our bond, I have created an environment of understanding and empathy in which she has thrived.In this Episode:The challenges of parenting a strong-willed childTransitioning from traditional to connection-based parentingThe impact of connection on parent-child relationshipsHow to navigate defiance and maintain empathyThe importance of nurturing individuality and autonomy🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Case Study: Parenting a Strong-Willed Child
23-04-2024
Case Study: Parenting a Strong-Willed Child
How do you navigate traditional parenting methods when they don't align with your child's temperament? Today, I sit with some of my longtime clients, Danielle and Neal, who discuss their parenting journey with their highly sensitive and strong-willed son, Jack. They tried traditional discipline methods such as timeouts and taking toys away, but these did not work for Jack. As a result, Danielle and Neal sought alternative approaches and eventually discovered Peace and Parenting.Danielle and Neal share the significant role that working on their childhood issues played in their journey. They also discuss which techniques worked for them, the impact of setting limits without punishments, and the importance of understanding your child and parenting style.In this Episode:Challenges and Traditional Parenting FailsDiscovering a New Approach to ParentingThe Impact of Coaching on Parenting and Personal GrowthThe Evolution of Parenting: From Struggles to SuccessReflections on Parenting Techniques and Setting Limits🔗 Interested in our 1:1 Coaching? Book a Discovery Call with one of our team now💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review.📖 Check out my book UNPUNISHED!Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: @peaceandparentingFacebook: @peaceandparentinglaPeace and Parenting Facebook GroupWant to join The Yelling Cure Event: https://peaceandparentingla.com/the-yelling-cureOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code PEACE for a great deal: happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy