Between Our Thighs

If there is one thing that Kristin Rankin (they/them) believes in, it’s that hair care should not be gendered. To be fair, there are a lot of things that Kristin believes in, all of which the queer community and their allies should fully get behind. In this episode, we had the pleasure of chatting with Kristin about their not-for-profit the Dresscode Project, Gender Free Haircut Club Day, the importance of providing gender-affirming haircare for all folks — you name it. Follow Kristin and the Dresscode Project: www.dresscodeproject.com Kristin’s Instagram: @kristinrankinhair DCP’s Instagram: @thedresscodeproject Facebook: @dresscodeprojectTO Twitter: @drsscdprjct

While selling (and talking about) sex toys is not such a taboo topic in the modern-day, it wasn’t always that way. In fact, aside from “sleazy” shops that one would be embarrassed to be seen walking in and out of, there weren’t any other options, really… aside from at-home toy parties, that is. This is where Edwina (she/her) made a career, not just selling a product to folks in the comfort of their own homes, but educating and encouraging them to live their most pleasurable lives. With it, came a bunch of incredible stories and lessons. Today, Edwina is here to share the highlights of her career. Follow Edwina on Bedbible: www.bedbible.com Instagram: @bedbibleofficial Facebook: @bedbibleofficial Twitter: @bedbible

Ever wonder how high-quality lingerie boutiques go through their design and creation process? What about how lingerie itself can boost your self-confidence, whether or not you have a partner? From the first thought of launching a company through to all the reason why every woman can benefit from wearing quality lingerie, Angie’s Showroom’s founder Angelina Mahany (she/her) is here to fill us in on all of the important details. Plus, you can save 12% on your next purchase at Angie’s Showroom by using the code BETWEENOURTHIGHS at checkout. Follow Angie's Showroom: www.angieshowroom.com Instagram: @angies.showroom Facebook: @angieshowroom.usa Pinterest: @angieshowroom TikTok: @angies.showroom

Who doesn't love oral sex? Regardless of what you refer to it as — eating out, giving head, going down — oral is something that can be enjoyed by anyone, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. That’s why Stephen Quaderer (he/him) invented an incredible app called Headero, which has been designed to empower consenting adults to connect and meet for oral exploration and pleasure. Today, we’re chatting with Stephen to talk about oral sex, safety and fun in discovering hookup culture, and everything in-between.

Newsflash: the orgasm myth between cis-gendered men and women is very much a reality. In fact, it’s a staggering 42% difference, with penis owners orgasming significantly more than folks with vulvas. Shocking, right? In this episode, we talk to Paulette Stout, author of women’s fiction novel Love, Only Better, to discuss the orgasm gap, her own journey to seeking out an earth-shattering orgasm, and how anyone with a vulva can open a conversation up with their partners about pleasure, climaxing, and all things sex. Follow Paulette: www.paulettestout.com Instagram: @paulettestoutauthor Facebook: @paulettestoutauthor Twitter: @StoutContent

Pleasure is a right that everyone deserves… and that we can all have access to. Unfortunately, many people feel that they cannot (or should not) seek out sexual gratification either through solo play or with a partner because of social and cultural norms, religious expectations, and overall upbringing. However, it’s such a normal and integral aspect of the human experience, that it truly is meant for everyone. Today, we’re talking with Bee (she/her) of Esmerelda ESO ES to talk about all things masturbation, shared pleasure, and breaking the boundaries of a strict religious upbringing. Follow Esmerelda ESO ES: www.esmerelda.ca Instagram: @esoesesmerelda Facebook: @esoesesmerelda

Who says bottoming has to be stressful? Alex Hall (he/him) is “Chief Bottom Officer” of the incredible cooking show The Bottom’s Digest, and he dives into the best ways bottoms (regardless of gender) can take care of their bodies, have a healthy and tasty diet, and still power through their sex life in full gear. After all, who doesn’t benefit from extra energy during sex? Follow The Bottom’s Digest: www.thebottomsdigest.com YouTube: The Bottom’s Digest Instagram: @thebottomsdigest TikTok: @bottomsdigest

Birth control is so commonly used by people all over the globe, and yet, it somehow still remains to be a taboo topic. The truth is that it shouldn’t be. After all, refusing to talk about something so important in a relationship (or even a casual sexual encounter) is more harmful than anything. This is why we’ve sat down today to chat with Dallas Barnes of Reya Health, to open up the conversation on all the different types of contraception while helping vulva owners decide which option is best for them. Follow Reya Health: www.reyahealth.ca Instagram: @reyahealth

The definition of “traditional” monogamy may not be exactly what you think it is. In fact, it not only has shifted in meaning throughout time, but it varies from person to person today. A given person’s opinion on it can even shift many times throughout their lifetime. Clearly, it’s time to take a deeper look to gain a better understanding of what it means (and does not mean). In this episode, Sophie Pagès (she/they) of LVRSNFRNDS dives into the topics of open relationships and ethical non-monogamy, dating, forming more intimate connections with people, and becoming the most authentic version of yourself.

Here’s what they didn’t teach you in your high school sex-ed class: weed and sex go together like peanut butter and jelly, coffee and cream, Netflix and chill. Yep — it’s true! Today, we’re delving into the topic of cannabis use in relation to sexual pleasure with sexologist Amanda Moser (she/her). As the founder of Weed Love Sex, Amanda has created a community of like-minded individuals that want to learn more about sex, cannabis, and how to combine the two in the bedroom. Follow Amanda: www.weedlovesex.com Instagram: @weedlovesexx Facebook: @weedlovesxx

Prioritizing sex after birth — or even after having kids that have grown up a bit — doesn’t always come naturally. Couples can experience a lack of intimacy after a baby, brought on by fatigue, stress over caring for the new person they are responsible for, and even a general shift in hormones post-delivery (some people even experience a decrease in their sex drive throughout their pregnancy). We’re not saying to jump right into sex after birth (after all, the human body needs time to recover after delivering a baby, and your doctor or midwife’s recommendations should be followed). Of course, we’re not even suggesting that you have sex when you’re not in the mood and don’t feel up to it. What we are suggesting is that couples who want to keep their sex lives alive and well, even after having kids, take the time to listen to today’s conversation. We’re sitting down with an anonymous mom-of-two to discuss what it’s like to experience the fluctuations of hormones and libido, as well as understanding and working through the physical changes from conception, through to the months of pregnancy, post-delivery, and while raising young children. We also chat about the importance of taking time to be the best version of yourself and how to love your body, regardless of if you’re a parent or not!

CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains dialogue on rape, sexual assault, and abuse. Listener discretion is advised. ***** How does one survive a childhood of sexual abuse? The signs of child abuse, and later, of partner abuse, are not always obvious, especially when you are facing it first-hand. Whether experiencing these traumas first-hand or know somebody who is, remember: it is possible to leave sexually and physically abusive situations. It is possible to get out. Today, Jennifer (she/her) sits down with us to talk about how she continues to overcome her traumas, and how her history has shaped the way she raises her daughter. Follow Jennifer: Instagram: @jenn_christine23

Is it okay to watch porn? There’s always been a big debate on this topic, especially because most mainstream pornography streaming services are depicting sex in a totally unrealistic way. From idealizing slim, white heterosexual couples to putting a spotlight on large, circumcised penises and neutral-looking vulvas, there is typically a sole focus on male pleasure. Everyone else, if represented at all, is generally done so in a very fetishized way. Put simply, the porn industry, overall, has a lot of work to do to ‘get better.’ Naturally, this is not the porn we at Between Our Thighs are watching. While you might find something in the midst of streams, a video that can get your pulse racing, it does not mean that it’s ethical. This is what Benefit Monkey — a pornography company based in Switzerland — has been doing for the past year. Today, we’re chatting with one of their Monkeys, M, who is here to talk about the world of pornography, why the future of the industry needs to be ethical, and answers all of our community’s big questions. Follow Benefit Monkey: www.thebenefitmonkey.com Instagram: @thebenefitmonkey Facebook: @thebenefitmonkey Twitter: @monkeybenefit

Jeremiah Eyster (he/him) is the designer and founder of Coupe, a sex and relationships brand built for close couples. It’s likely not news to you that love and sex excite, inspire, and drive creativity. These connections are central to who we are as humans. We, as a species, go beyond just sex for mating. We indulge in copious additional sex to enrich our intimate connections. The bottom line? It’s important to us. So, how can we strengthen our bond with our partners? How do we foster emotional intimacy? How does one even go about launching a start-up company in the sex industry? Today, Jeremiah sits down with us to talk about all these things and more. Follow Coupe: www.coupecouple.com @_coupe_couple

Montréal-based Isabelle Deslauriers (she/her) is the designer and founder of Désirables, a company focused on building intimacy both with ourselves and our partners. When you think about mindfulness — consciously and purposefully bringing yourself to focus on the present — you often associate it with a clear headspace, sense of peace, and deepened awareness of bodily sensations. Using these techniques to foster mindful intimacy (and thus, mindful sex) with both yourself and, eventually, your partner, can help you learn how to explore your bodies in a more physical and emotional way. As a result, your connection will further develop, and your relationship will strengthen. The same goes for slow sex. But how do you achieve mindfulness and enjoy slow sex? Today, we have Isabelle Deslauriers, founder and designer of Montréal-based Désirables, to talk to us about slow and mindful sex. You can save 10% on your entire first order from Désirables when you use the code BETWEEN10 at checkout! Follow Isabelle and Désirables: www.desirables.ca @desirablesed @miss.desirables

CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains dialogue on rape, sexual assault, and abuse. Listener discretion is advised. ***** Sexual abuse can take on many forms, revealing itself in the physical and mental trauma it leaves in its wake. Regardless of the form that it takes, the bottom line is that it is NEVER justifiable. It’s not about having better conversations with your abuser, not dressing a certain way, being sure you don’t drink or do drugs… Abuse is abuse, and it is not the survivor or victim’s fault. It. never. is. Today, we’re talking to Leanna Larkin (she/her), founder of Reluctant Heroines, a movement to give you the tools and techniques to flourish after sexual violence. You can find her on Instagram at www.instagram.com/reluctantheroines

If it wasn’t already obvious, we love good erotica. Like, we really love it. So, when Sinclair Sexsmith (they/them) of the blog Sugarbutch Chronicles reached out for us to read and review Cleis Press’ upcoming collection — that they are editor of — we couldn’t say “no.” Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volume 5 was amazing. The anthology “explores and expands on the very definition of eroticism with a diverse mix of queer, non-binary, trans, and polyamorous #ownvoices that will have you quivering with delight and wondering what more you can explore — no matter how you identify.” Today, we’re talking to Sinclair about the erotica collection, which on December 8th, 2020. We also delve into the inspiration behind their personal website (Sugarbutch Chronicles) and the world of kink and BDSM. Follow Sinclair: www.sugarbutch.net @MrSexsmith

The decision to find a fuck buddy is not one that should be taken lightly, whether you decide to have sex with your friend or seek out someone you didn’t previously know. Along with the development of this non-romantic sexual relationship, there are boundaries that need to be put into place and expectations that need to be made clear before things start to get physical. Today, our host M has their personal friend joining in on the conversation to have a candid chat about their experiences with their own fuck buddies, including how living through a pandemic has affected these relationships.

In this pilot interview episode featuring Step (they/them) of Cute Little Fuckers, we get to go behind the scenes of this personable, approachable, and gender-inclusive sex toy company. They give us the details on the company's inspiration, the challenging launching process, a look into each toy's name, the future of sex toys, and how to create a more inclusive world. Check out Cute Little Fuckers' website and social: https://cutelittlefuckers.com/ @CuteLittleFkers