Being a mom on purpose means stepping into your strengths as well as stepping into your struggles. This means letting go of perfectionism and the chase to be the ideal mom and have the ideal kids.
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This episode covers:
What is conscious parenting
Parenting on auto-pilot, why we do it and how it is different from mindful parenting
When our kids are difficult we try to 'out-difficult' them, and what we can do instead
How conscious parenting challenges our western parenting culture and how many of us were raised
Quote from Dr. Sheflai
Unless we address why we can’t embrace our children for precisely who they are, we will forever either seek to mold, control, and dominate them—or we will allow ourselves to be dominated by them.Tsabary, Dr. Shefali. The Conscious Parent (p. 54). Namaste Publishing Inc.. Kindle Edition.
How our kid's struggles bring us face to face with our own struggles
When our kids aren't easy, they are challenging the things we have conditioned ourselves to be uncomfortable with
Letting go of the notion that we are meant to be perfect parents
The messy relationships and the struggle matter as much as the peace we crave
Hard doesn't mean you are doing it wrong, it often simply means you are doing it
Related links and episodes mentioned
53. Change your motherhood experience by changing how you make memories
The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali
The key elements of Conscious Parenting
Never Say No by Jan and Mark Foreman
Three Books That Changed My Mothering
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Full transcript (unedited)
Hey friends welcome to simple purpose. I'm here to girlfriend Shawna. And this is a follow up episode to episode 166. So I encourage you to stop by and listen to that one versus 13 minutes pretty quick. In that one, we talked about understanding that you can be a mom on purpose because you were made on purpose. It's not a checklist you have to make. It's something that's already inside of you everything you bring into motherhood, your strengths, your struggles, they all matter. They all help your family and you learn and grow together. And I think we can hyper focus on giving our kids this idyllic childhood, I think we can get caught up in all of the Pinterest requirements on how childhood has to look. But the motherhood experience matters just as much it matters. Motherhood matters as much to us as childhood matters to our kids. So our experience matters. This is important. If you want to dig in a little bit into that, check out episode 53 Change your motherhood experience by changing how you make memories. I'll link that in the show notes. So as we talk about being a mom on purpose, having confidence in the mom you are made to be. I want to also match that with the topic of conscious parenting because this is another layer that I brought into my own parenting over my parenting journey. And I'm aware, I'm a newbie in terms of my parenting career. But this is what I've learned along the way. And this is what I want to share. So conscious parenting Dr. Shefali, literally wrote the book on it. And I'll link that book in the show notes. I've read it, I have lots of highlights in it. It's really, really great. conscious parenting in general is a philosophy that says, our kids are reflecting things to us that we need to be conscious of that we need to be aware of. Because we spend our days living and parenting on autopilot from that subconscious, automatic programming that's running the show. Because how often are you really mindful? How often are you thinking about every decision, every thought, every reaction, every emotion that you're having? How often are you consciously in that rarely, right?