The Recovery Room

Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder talk about gaslighting. What is it? How does it show up during infidelity? During affair recovery? What should you do if someone is gaslighting you? * Episode Resouces: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast503.html

Counselors Tim Tedder and Jenn Gingras discuss unique issues to consider when dealing with someone who has had multiple affairs. Is there hope for recovery? What difference does it make to the betrayed partner? What does it mean to the involved partner? * Episode Resouces: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast502.html

Tim Tedder talks about what influences the choices and changes we make, with particular focus on decisions made in the aftermath of an affair. In the introduction, Tim and Sharon discuss life shifts resulting from COVID-19. * Episode notes and resources available at https://AffairHealing.com/podcast501

Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder interview a neuroscientist to learn more about the limerence experience. What's going on in the brain of someone who is caught up in the powerful emotions often experienced in an affair (a condition sometimes called "Affair Fog")? * Episode notes and resources available at https://AffairHealing.com/podcast408 * See also https://livingwithlimerence.com

Three counselors discuss affair choices as they result in compromises (crossing the line into infidelity), indecision, and recovery. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast407

Three counselors discuss affair responses related to anger, children, and forgiveness as they review their earlier conversations about these topics. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast406

Three counselors respond to a callers question about the veracity of her husband's claims that he doesn't remember any of the details about his recent affair. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast405

Tim Tedder and others discuss the various issues related to why someone has an affair in order to gain insight into the past and define changes necessary for rebuilding trust. The entire "Understanding Why" course is available at AffairHealing.com. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast404

Counselor Tim Tedder respond to the question: "Is it normal to have sex struggles in your marriage after an affair?" * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast403

Three counselors respond to the question: "What can I do to help my husband heal after my affair? He's stuck." * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast402

Tim Tedder interviews Debi Silber to find out more about the five stages of Post Betrayal Transformation. Debi is the founder of PBT Institute (pbtinstitute.com), focussed on helping women move from betrayal to breakthrough. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast401

Counselors Tim Tedder & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal in two podcasts. In Part 2, they focus on "Recovering From Trauma." This episode includes a consideration of the unique challenges of betrayal trauma, therapeutic approaches that help in recovery, and 3 thought exercises. * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast306 * Music used in this podcast: "Ever Mindful" and "Sunshine" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)licensed under Creative Commons: by Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0

Counselors Tim Tedder & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal in two podcasts. In Part 1, they focus on "Understanding Trauma" especially as it is experienced by those who have been injured by a partner's affair. * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast305 * Music used in this podcast: "Low Horizon" by Kai Engel and "Movie Rhythm 1" by Sunsearcher, both under license from Creative Commons Music - http://ccmusic.org

Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder and Jennifer Gingras answer callers' questions regarding healing from infidelity: What can I do to help my husband who is struggling since finding out about my affair? My wife's affair revealed new things about her. How do I love her when I'm not sure I understand her anymore? How do my husband and I support each other while we're both so wounded from his affair? My wife and I are having trouble reconnecting sexually since her affair; what can I do? I am working to heal our marriage after our affair, but what can I do if my husband is stuck in anger? Once we got to a stable place after my wife's emotional affair, she seems less willing to address the infidelity. What should I do? * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast304

Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, affair recovery counselors, discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 2, they talk about whether or not to tell about an affair and what issues need to be explored by couples who want to grow on the other side of infidelity. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast303

Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, affair recovery counselors, discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 1, they talk about understanding the meaning behind an affair and the role of each partner in the recovery process. * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast302

In this first episode of a new season, counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder give their responses to four questions asked by callers: (1) What should I do to save my marriage when my husband seems minimally involved in the healing from his affair? (2) How do I deal with my husband's lack of details about his affair? (3) How can I know if I've truly forgiven my spouse? (4) How should I feel about getting angry when something triggers the pain of his affair? * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast301

Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder discuss various issues to consider when healing from an affair means leaving the marriage as they consider the choices of both the injured partner and involved partner. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast214

Counselor Tim Tedder considers the line between fidelity and infidelity and examines two affair stories to gain insight into when and how the lines are crossed. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast213

Counselors Tim and Sharon Tedder talk about common affair recovery myths including: affairs are evidence of a bad marriage; the first step in affair recovery should be marriage counseling; hiding painful information is better than causing more hurt; forgiveness requires trusting; an affair is too personal to talk about; the betrayed spouse will feel relieved once they get an answer to WHY the affair happened. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast212